i thought for a while about whether to write this post because writing it might trigger things that will further harm me but i’m really feeling lost
someone has been cyberbullying me. they either write stuff asking me to go and end my life or they borrow words from what i post and use it in their posts, taunting me. things have changed and they started sharing about their own struggles, but still using the words i use so it’s definitely quite uncomfortable knowing that the same person who asked me to go and die is still watching my moves
you are in your own struggle, my pain has nothing to do with you, your pain has nothing to do with me. stop hurting me
edit: more info - i don’t know who this person is and we’ve never interacted before so all of this is unprovoked. it took me a while to come talk about this because its been ages since i last got bullied and i couldn’t really believe that it was happening to me again. kinda too embarrassed to confide in my friends. my therapist did ask me if i wanted to make a police report but im undecided. would appreciate any thoughts/advice :,)
edit 2: appreciate the support that everyone has given me thus far… after a while i’ve been able to observe their modus operandi and how they try to get into the psyche of people. quite cunning and unique to do it in a way where it’s difficult for others to tell what’s going on unless they’re the victim or perp themselves. but yes, the internet is a big wide place filled with threats and i guess i’m just on the unlucky side of things
edit 3: i think they’ve changed tactics again. just wondering what i really did to deserve any of this… grateful and thankful though for the support
edit 4: wish i wasn’t so dumb… :")
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Dear @coagulate,
Dealing with cyberbullying can be incredibly distressing, and it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling lost and hurt. It takes a lot of courage to speak up about what you’re going through, and I’m glad you felt comfortable sharing here. Remember that you don’t deserve to be treated this way, and it’s not your fault.
If you’re considering involving the authorities, it might be worth speaking with them to understand your options. Your well-being is the most important thing, and you deserve to feel safe. It’s also okay to take your time and think through your next steps. Please know that you’re not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to support you through this. If you ever need to talk, we’re here for you.
Hello @coagulate 
! Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling and also being courageous enough to share it here (especially it could be quite painful to think about this incident).
I would like to reassure you and let you know that what you’re experiencing is not your fault in any way and it does not reflect you. It must seem quite intrusive to watch how this individual is misrepresenting and manipulating your own words to gain emotional harm. It might seem as if they’re stealing something personal from you, and it hurts to not be able to speak for yourself. You are entirely correct: their suffering is unrelated to yours. Everyone has difficulties, but it doesn’t give someone the right to use that pain as a weapon against others.
About the police report, it is understandable for you to be unsure about how to proceed, whether to report or not. It might be difficult to confide in friends, particularly when you are humiliated, but please know that there is no shame in being the victim of bullying. Reaching out to people, even if you start small, may provide you with the feeling of protection and comfort that you are lacking right now. Your friends will not condemn you for what is occurring; instead, they will want to support you.
Meanwhile, some steps you could take to build or protect yourself, in terms of mental health would be
- Blocking the bully on the platform so that they will not be able to comment, etc.
- Stay away from social media for the time being. I understand social media is like a “life” to many of us but a break from it could be beneficial
Never disregard the strength of your support system. I believe they genuinely do care for you and wouldn’t humiliate you. However, if you feel scared or have difficulties approaching them and you need to talk to someone, you could post it here (only if you’re comfortable). Reaching out is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is an act of strength to let people in 
hello @potatooo, it’s like how you described - my words being stolen from me… nothing wrong with someone else also struggling, i just wish they could use their own words and not mine because it feels like they’re specifically referencing my experiences which are personal and unique.
like what you suggested, it’s definitely possible to block them. however, they tend to make multiple anon accounts so it’s difficult to tell when they will strike again with a different account.
but with regards to the police report… i will have to watch the situation and decide what to do next. but for now my mental health is in a fragile state so i’m hoping it won’t happen again…
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thank you for sharing, I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this, it must have been really upsetting and confusing to deal with🥺 i saw in your reply that these bullies can make multiple anon accs so its difficult to block them completely, so perhaps it’d be best to stay off social media for awhile? it might help you to recover mentally first before you deal with the situation again. i hear that you find it embarrassing to confide in your friends, but please don’t feel that way! there is nothing embarrassing about what you are going through, its the bullies who are embarrassing themselves for using your words against you. I’m sure your friends will be able to understand and support you so i hope you’ll reach out to them whenever you are ready❤️. it’ll help alot just by talking about this with people.
i know things are rough for you right now, but i hope you continue to take care of yourself. do as much self care as you like! stay safe 
hello @strawberrymilk, thank you for your kind words. i’m starting to get some nasty panic attacks from it. i’m thinking of just disappearing completely
Hello @coagulate !!
I see that it is difficult for you to “get out” of the harassment or bullying. I am not sure which social media you’re referring to but perhaps make it private for the moment and disable any message from people whom you don’t know. If those aren’t possible, consider staying out of social media for the time being. Do note that it is not escaping from it but rather it is for yourself to recuperate and think through or digest things 
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I agree or understand it is difficult for this matter to be escalated into a police report thus it’s good that you are monitoring it first. As advised, it would be good to stay out of social medias or those platforms for the time being and take this time to do something you like and focus on yourself 
hey @potatooo. yeah i think you’re right. the person’s pretty relentless so i don’t think they’re going to stop any time soon. it does feel pretty lonely because it’s just being attacked non-stop at this point.