Friendship problems

I am honestly so mad that some people even have friends, I once had a friend of 7 years that ended up bullying me after I introduced her to another friend of mine. They bullied me together and even said I deserved to be depressed and even body shamed me. When I confronted them, they tried to brush it off,JOKED about and even asked me to start afresh. I am so mad and hurt because of all the emotional damage THEY have purposely caused and all the fees I spent to get my mental health treated. Some more this happened when I was in sec 3 that was last year and I didn’t learn anything much as I was mostly out of school due to fear of seeing them in school. Not only have they bullied me, they have also caused me a lot of damage. Although I am receiving proper help now, I am currently sitting for o levels this year but i am very far behind due to this incident :broken_heart:stay safe everyone. Don’t be a victim to bullying, online or in real life.

Hope that u can find new frens. I guess that u didn’t leave them cuz they r the only ones who stuck w u. U can try making frens on Meetup apps tho the age group will be older, thats the only thing i can think of. Dont let these ppl affect u to the point u destroy ur own life

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Hi @user2734 , I am really sorry that you have to experience this, and your feelings are completely valid. I understand that it is really difficult to deal with the emotional toll on top of your other commitments. Perhaps you can also seek consultations from your teachers for concepts you are not sure about. Feel free to also look around mindline’s resources, and if you feel like getting something off your chest, here is a very supporting community to do so :heart_hands: take care OP!

Hey @user2734 ,

Thank you for sharing this on the platform. I’m so sorry that you have to experience something so hurtful, especially from people that were once close to you. What you’re feeling is completely understandable and valid and I’m glad you’re also receiving proper help to work through these emotional challenges you have.

For your O levels, maybe you could consider arranging extra consultations with your subject teachers to catch up on them? Or maybe you could consider discussing with your parents and teachers about holding back a year and taking O levels next year? Then you have time to work through your challenges and to catch up as well. I’m not too sure how it’ll affect your future plans, so discussing with your parents and teachers will be best.

Lastly, know that you’re not alone in this and feel free to get anything off your chest on this platform :heart:

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You should inform your parents and teachers about their bullying. I’m sorry that you have gone through this very traumatic experience.

Thank you for sharing something so painful :persevering_face: What you went through was definitely unfair and no one deserves to be treated like that, especially by people you once called friends. It sounds like their betrayal and bullying left scars, and it’s completely valid to feel angry and hurt after what they have put you through. I’m really glad to hear you’re receiving help now and still pushing forward despite everything, that takes a lot of strength :flexed_biceps:t2: Being behind in your studies doesn’t define your worth, and it’s never too late to catch up at your own pace. If it ever feels too heavy, I hope you’ll continue leaning on the support around you, you’re not alone in this :yellow_heart:

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Hello @user2734

I’m really sorry you went through that. What they did to you, especially after years of friendship, was incredibly hurtful and unfair. Your anger and pain are completely valid. No one deserves to be bullied or made to feel that way, especially by people they trusted.

It’s understandable that you’re still feeling the effects, especially with school and your O-levels coming up. The fact that you’re getting help and still pushing forward shows how strong and resilient you are, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.

You didn’t deserve what happened, and you’re not alone. Thank you for speaking up, it takes a lot of courage, and your words may help someone else feel less alone too. Please take care of yourself. You deserve support, healing, and peace.

hi @user2734,

Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience. Those 2 people you call “friends” are not your true friends. Glad that you are in good hands now!

I would say to those reading this post:
Bullying can happen to anyone, get help from authoritative figures as soon as it happens to you, and never ignore bullies (like what people usually say). Ignoring a bully just makes matters worse, cause then they know they can get away with it, so they will do it again.

My heart goes out to you. It is never okay to bully, and you are so brave for sharing your experience here. You went through something so unfair and painful, but you have shared your story here for yourself and others too.

I just wanted to say it is not your fault that you were bullied, and you don’t deserve any of the hurt. You are important and matter and deserve to just be you, not needing to be cautious of bullies. I hope you find safe spaces for you to be unapologetically you without fear