I got 20% for the quiz just now and I am now thinking that death can help me escape from passing the MasterCAM module cos this quiz score is making me feel very scared. To me, Death is the solution to all of our problems. And Plus right, This 20% quiz score that I score is worth 6% of the grade.
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Hi @user1126
Thank you for reaching out to us on this platform and sharing your concerns. I think it take a lot of strength and courage for you to talk about such strong feelings. I am sorry to hear that your quiz score is not what you expected, and it can be quite disheartening considering the effort you put in and how important it is to you.
Your feelings are valid and I hope you know that you are not alone in this, I am sure there are people who love and care deeply for you and it is okay to ask for help. If it feels too difficult to talk about it, sometimes sending a text message or just being with someone can help you feel better.
Life can bring us lots of challenges and I am sure you have been through difficult times as well. Overcoming challenges in life can also be a reminder that we go through different phases and this is not permanent. I know it might not feel like it right now but I want to let you know that tough times are temporary. While it seems like you are stuck and it is too difficult, they do eventually pass. Just like how you used to overcome your past challenges, remind yourself of how strong and resilient you are.
Also, do know that your academic score is not the only thing that defines who you are as a person or what you are capable of accomplishing. It does not reflect your overall abilities and potential as a person. You are definitely stronger than you think.
Let’s take small steps forward for now as it can be rather overwhelming at this moment. Focus on taking one step at a time and hopefully things will get better. I would like to suggest some coping strategies for you to consider:
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Seek support. Do reach out to trusted family or friends who can support you emotionally, to talk about how you are feeling. Their perspective of you might be different as they see you for who you are, aside from your academic self, whereas you are currently more focused on you as a student. I hope you get a wider perspective and some encouragement from them.
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Use resources. You may consider finding mentors, peers or lecturers who can possibly help you explore different study techniques or set a study routine. It could also be exploring study groups or scheduling review sessions with your lecturer to help with your progress.
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Manage expectations. It is helpful to be realistic about your goals and manage your expectations around it. As a student, there are so many things you are doing besides school work and it is not possible to excel at everything. Celebrate small victories along the way to motivate yourself.
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Self-compassion. I hope you can be kind to yourself especially during these tough periods. I see that this is very disappointing, and I hope that you are still able to remind yourself of your other achievements and strengths. Give yourself more affirmations and encouragement to tide over this.
If you find it challenging to talk to your family or others directly or if you need additional support, you may also consider reaching out to a mental health professional like a school counsellor or online platforms. They can provide a safe space for you to explore healthy ways to work around your emotions.
Here are some platforms you can consider:
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SOS – 1767 the hotline for SOS is toll-free and you may choose to remain anonymous. You will be speaking to volunteers who are trained to provide emotional support and a listening ear or receive some resources for professional support. You may also consider reaching out to SOS via their CareText function using WhatsApp (9151 1767).
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Limitless - Talk To Someone - Limitless
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IMH CHAT - Home - CHAT
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Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) - 1800-283 7019
Lastly, I also want to encourage you to try out these tools we have that may help you to manage these overwhelming feelings:
- Have self-compassion - https://mindline.sg/youth?wysa_tool_id=love_yourself
- Reframe your thoughts and find new perspectives - Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
- Take deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed - Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
I hope this helps to develop new insights and perspectives to your situation. Remember you are not along in this journey and I hope you get to receive the support you need. Hope to hear more from you. Take care!
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