workload has been overwhelming and the bosses reply will often be “it can’t be helped”. My boss is very understanding and often she will try her best to grant our leave requests. However, almost everyday work has been crazy and my stress levels piled up. I often find myself exhausted after my shifts, no interest to socialise and sudden outbursts of anger became more frequent. I often fell sick or getting injuries to my hands and legs. Whenever I go for massage, the masseuse always mentioned that my muscles is very tensed. I tried meditating but I couldn’t relax nor focus. In addition, I’ve worked for many years but yet I feel that I’m undervalued at the department. Those more junior than me were given the opportunity to climb the ladder.
Yes the pay is better than before but is it worth it in return of my declining health? I have bills to pay and my parents are aged and are dependent on me. My siblings are all married with kids so that is their excuse for not providing financially for my parents. Should I resign, will I be able to get the same amount of salary next time? Or should I just breakaway and take few months away from work? I want to hold on to this job because I have great relationship with my boss but I’m afraid that I’m starting to lose myself with the constant heavy workload
Hi @neuron,
Thank you for sharing everything you’re going through. I can hear how much you’re juggling, from supporting your parents to managing a demanding workload. It’s a lot, and it’s clear that you’ve been giving so much of yourself without the recognition or relief that you deserve. Feeling undervalued at work, especially when you see others moving ahead, is deeply frustrating, and it’s no wonder that this is starting to impact your well-being.
It sounds like the physical toll of your stress—like the muscle tension and exhaustion—is really weighing on you, and I can imagine how hard it must be to even try relaxing when you’re carrying so much. Meditation can be difficult when your mind is full, so maybe there are other ways to release some of that tension. Have you tried something like progressive muscle relaxation? It’s a technique where you tense and release different muscle groups, and it can sometimes help release stored stress.
It also sounds like you’re facing a difficult choice: whether to stay in a job that feels familiar and supportive in some ways but is also overwhelming, or to consider stepping away to focus on yourself. Sometimes, when we’re so close to a situation, it’s hard to see what might truly serve us best. Would it be helpful to explore what’s most important to you right now—whether it’s financial stability, health, or growth? There might be ways to approach your work and family roles that feel more balanced without having to carry everything alone.
Remember, you’re doing so much already, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. You deserve to feel valued and supported, both at work and at home, and there are ways to build toward that. If you’re open to it, I’d love to help you explore this journey and find what might bring you relief and a sense of direction.
Hi @Neuron ,
It sounds like you’re really carrying a lot on your shoulders right now, and it’s no wonder you’re feeling exhausted. Something I’ve learned is that promotions aren’t always about performance alone. Often, there are other factors at play, like timing or workplace dynamics, that we can’t control. It’s hard not to take it personally, especially with all you’ve invested, but it doesn’t reflect your worth or ability.
It’s totally understandable to feel frustrated and undervalued when you’ve put in so much, especially when your health is taking a hit, too. That can really chip away at motivation and make it harder to keep going. It’s also valid to question whether the pay is worth what it’s costing you physically and mentally.
Taking a break sounds like it could give you some space to breathe and regroup, but I get that it’s a big decision, especially with financial commitments and family pressures. You’re in a tough spot, torn between sticking with a job you’ve invested in and taking a step back for your well-being. Remember that finding a balance where you’re healthy and supported is essential—you shouldn’t have to lose yourself in the process.
No matter what, don’t lose sight of what you need to feel fulfilled and healthy. You deserve that, too. Take care!!