Online and offline, at work and in school, just to name some examples.
Hi BBFA
Thank you for the courage to air your challenges of not feeling any sense of belonging at all. It sounds to me that you are feeling really alone. Please do not be discouraged, know that many of us have felt loneliness at some point in our lives, too. The bright side is that this loneliness can be overcome. I fully understand the difficulties of initiating a move so I encourage you to start slowly and venture out by taking small steps. As long as you keep going, you will find the momentum to continue, so tap on that energy generated.
Here are some recommendations:
-Identify some of your hobbies and interests. Then seek out communities that are more welcoming of accepting you. Seek inclusive communities (online or offline) that align with your interests.
-Practice self-compassion and focus on shared human experiences. Volunteering is a great way to contribute towards a shared cause.
-Consider speaking with a counsellor to uncover any underlying issues and core beliefs you may have developed since young which are interfering in your current life.
BBFA, you fully belong in spaces where you feel valued, respected, and supported. Keep going ! 
Hello BBFA,
I do think that it seems more likely for one to encounter communities which one does not feel a part of, than communities which one can fit into easily. In the instances of work and school which you mentioned, I would suggest that the communities are not created around a common theme per se, but rather from a diverse collection of individuals who happen to share this space. Hence, it would be understandable that you might not be able to connect with such a huge group of people at once. Even communities which revolve around a specific area of interest may already have smaller groups, which members are familiar with one another and may not be receptive to new individuals.
I believe that having a few people whom you can get along with in your various communities can ease some of your feelings about your lack of belonging. I acknowledge, though, that it can be difficult to form friendships in adulthood, given that you may not have interests in common with people from work and/or that people may not be keen on making friends. In any case, I hope that you will stay safe while navigating these communities and eventually meet people whom you can connect and feel comfortable with.
Wishing you good health and better days ahead!
Hi @BBFA , I would like to offer a new perspective: belonging is overrated! Life is too short to think about how you can be just like everybody else. Do what you love, love what you do, and love who you are. These are the most important things about being human to me, which is ultimately all that we are — human.
- Working on becoming your best self. Tapping on your strengths, finding more new interests, getting new experiences. The more experiences you have to share about, the more you will find something in common.
- Be self-confident, humble, and self-improving. When you take pride in being a student, you will “belong” by finding people who share similar interests.
- Socialise. In a world where everyone fits in, people would tend to value and remember uniqueness. What’s something about you that you think “doesn’t fit in”, and how can you leverage on that to engage in conversations?
Last but not least, don’t be too stressed about fitting into the same mould as everybody else. Be yourself, love yourself, put yourself out there, and everything else will fall into place.
And what if I’ve little to nothing in the way of hobbies or interests?
What if I don’t like doing anything.
My experience thus far is of being an outsider even within these circles-within- a-circle.
Hi @BBFA how do you feel about not liking to do anything?
■■■■■■■ terrible of course, not being good at anything or wanting to do anything.
Hi @BBFA don’t take this the wrong way, but if it feels terrible, it also sounds like that’s a fixed part of yourself. Does that sound accurate to you?
Maybe if you could share more about your experience of not wanting to do anything it could help us better understand your situation.
Good question. I don’t know.
What I mean is, I hate my job, I can’t think of anything I might want to do for a living and I find existence pointless.
Hm I hear you! I think most of us are in our jobs out of necessity rather than desire.
Im curious where in your life would you want to see change then? Do you think finding a job that fulfills you would make you feel better about things? If not, do you want to change your relationship to work?
What would be really nice right now, would be to simply blink out of existence. I didn’t ask to be born, you know.