i broke up with my boyfriend two days ago. we were distant since a month ago, neither of us texted each other, reach out to ask how each day’s going. when i asked for a break up i just went straight to the point, “sayang, let’s break up.” it took him an hour to responded with a single “ok” then when i asked, “is that it?” then he replied back with a cold distant “what?” that shut me down completely lol. we were never good at communicating and i really wish i had someone i can talk to about this but i truly have no one. it’s upsetting how he can just go through a day without me when i’m stuck with my thoughts. he knew what’s wrong but yet he did nothing. i feel so worthless like i’m not worth fighting for.
Hi @bunnyonmoon,
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Breakups are painful enough, but when they’re met with silence or coldness, it can feel like your hurt doesn’t even register. You deserved tenderness, closure, and someone who cared enough to show up emotionally, even if things were ending. That quiet distance you described, the lack of effort, the way he responded curtly with “what?” - it’s not a reflection of your worth. It’s a reflection of his capacity, or maybe his own avoidance. But I see you. I hear the ache in your words, and I want you to know that your feelings are valid. You’re not “too much” for wanting connection, and you’re not alone in this moment, even if it feels like it.
You said you “truly have no one to talk to”. But you do have someone listening right now. Platforms like Let’s Talk exist for exactly this reason - to hold space for people who feel unseen, unheard, or overwhelmed. You’re speaking, and someone is here to receive it.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s okay to feel stuck or confused. But this pain doesn’t define you, and it won’t last forever. And if you ever need to talk, vent, or just be reminded that you matter, I’m here. Let’s take this one breath at a time.
Hello @bunnyonmoon thank you for sharing this. It sounds like this breakup has been really painful, especially after a period where both of you had grown distant. Getting such short replies after everything you’ve shared together must have felt really hard.
You mentioned that communication was something both of you struggled with, and that can make it even tougher to express what you’re both feeling or needing from each other. It’s understandable that you’re left with a lot of thoughts and emotions right now.
Please remember that your feelings are valid. Feeling hurt or wondering about your worth after something like this is completely normal. But the way things unfolded doesn’t define your value as a person. You are still deserving of care, effort, and understanding.
Give yourself time to process what happened and please take care of yourself. You deserve gentleness and kindness as you heal.
hi @bunnyonmoon ! i’d like to be the first to reassure you that you’re not being dramatic. break ups are hard and there’s no one-track way to get over it. especially with one that ended abruptly and with very little closure. i can tell that the difficulty in communication took a toll and eventually also impacted how the relationship ended. it does take time to learn how to share about difficult things and i can tell you’re already trying your best to process this situation.
i do want to also affirm you that another person doesn’t define your worth, and neither does the amount of attention they give you. you get to define who you are and you’re not worthless. you deserve a relationship you’re happy in and one where you feel safe in. and you’re not alone! when it gets tough again or when it feels like you’re holding back talking to your friends, share here.
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thank you so much, I’m doing much better now 
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