Hi, currently 24yo uni student, retaking year 2 sem 1 mods (related to comp sci). Recently, I got my result of one of my mid-term assignments which I failed really really bad, meaning I probably have to take the same mod agn or maybe spend another semester to finish the mods I may fail in future. Honestly, studying isn’t my thing as it goes in and out of my ear and really unmotivated because coding isn’t my strong suit. I’ve always finish my assignments last minute which never change when looking back. And I play video games. Yes. I am very lazy, irresponsible and undisclipined person.
I’m feeling lost is because I felt of being a burden to my parents who are working hard to pay my school fees and I’m already in the middle of uni. I even talk with them and they suggest to drop out and find job instead if I really couldn’t do it because I’m also wasting my time if I keep repeating. I don’t know if I should still continue studying or drop out because even if I did drop out, I do not know what I would want to do in terms of looking for a job and if I couldn’t give my all in studying, won’t it be the same when comes to working? Should I try for another sem/year to see if I could make it or drop out because I’ve already repeated a sem.
Hey @LiTei. It takes courage to be this honest about feeling stuck and lost, especially when you’re worried about disappointing your parents.
I can hear how hard you’re being on yourself where you’re calling yourself lazy, irresponsible and undisciplined. Sometimes when things haven’t been going the way we hoped, it’s easy to turn that frustration inward and label ourselves instead of looking at what might be underneath, like low motivation, loss of interest, stress, or feeling overwhelmed.
Something that stood out to me is that you’re not ignoring this situation. You’re actually thinking of options, having open conversations with your parents, and reflecting on your patterns. That shows insight and willingness to take responsibility for your future
You also mentioned “if I couldn’t give my all in studying, won’t it be the same when comes to working?” Studying and working can feel very different. Some people who struggle academically actually do much better in hands-on, practical or structured work environments.
Maybe right now it might help to think less about “What if I fail everything?” and more about “What information do I need to make my next step clearer?” For example, you can try talking to academic or career advisors about realistic pathways and support options. You can also explore internships, part-time work to see what working feels like.
You don’t have to decide your whole life based on one semester or one result. It’s okay to take this one step at a time while you figure out what works best for you. And sometimes, the next step is just understanding yourself a little better.
I hope you can be a little kinder to yourself during this period, okie? Wishing you clarity, support, and the space to explore your path at your own pace
