What do i do with my life

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Hi i’m a year one poly student and my grades are really bad. I don’t know what i want to do with my life anymore and i feel like i have no future. even if i changed courses i don’t know what course i would change to and i feel like my grades will still be bad. i don’t want to have to retake my semester again but i need to somehow miraculously improve. i don’t have any more motivation to study and do my assignments though, im writing this because i just missed one of the deadlines for an important assignment. i feel like its so hopeless and i should just end it before my family wastes more money on me and my education.

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Hey @user9794,

It’s okay, take a moment and breathe. What you shared sounds really overwhelming. I’m hearing that your grades are bad, you missed an important deadline, and now everything feels like it’s crashing into this thought of “I have no future.” When pressure and disappointment build up like that, anyone would feel lost and unsettled.

It also sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot of quiet fear: not meeting expectations, worrying about your family’s money, and feeling like one difficult semester means your whole future is done. When all those worries stack up, the mind often jumps straight to the worst-case scenario. That doesn’t make the scenario true. It shows how stressed and cornered you feel right now.

Something that’s easy to forget in moments like this: you made it to poly. That didn’t happen by accident. You got through secondary school, handled exams, and pushed through challenges before. Those abilities are still in you; they’re just harder to see when everything feels heavy.

I can also hear the exhaustion… thinking about changing courses, worrying about repeating a semester, feeling like every option brings more pain. And beneath that is the shame, feeling like you might burden others or disappoint them. Shame can make you want to withdraw rather than ask for help.

If you slow down for a moment, is there a memory from sec school, a time you struggled but still managed to pull through? Even a small one. Sometimes recalling that can help steady the mind a little.

And even if you missed your deadlines, you can still reach out to your lecturer and explain what’s happening. You don’t have to face it alone. If it feels easier, you can talk to a friend who’s able to sit with you and think through what the next step could look like. You just need support for where you are right now, not a perfect plan.

If things feel too heavy or unsafe, here are people you can reach out to immediately:

You’re not beyond help. You’re overwhelmed and that’s something we can work through.
I hope you’re feeling a bit more settled after sharing this.

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