Feeling Lost, Mind full of thoughts

Hello! I’m 30M and currently going through a rather interesting phase in life. I left my full time sales job of 5 years in 2021 as I felt it no longer aligns with what I want to achieve for myself and also the relationship between my peers wasnt as healthy due to it being a competitive role. After leaving, I tried earning money online, it was okay but not sustainable in the long run as I was mostly doing it on my own. during this period I gradually became a shut in and I wasnt very comfortable with meeting people even if they were close to me. From what I’ve read is probably because I was afraid of people asking me “what are you doing now?” as I would not be confident to share with my situation at that point of time. after that I went to work 2 retail jobs. First one I left as it was mostly a 1 man show and Im doing 8-5. followed by 930-1030 for closing. For the second one i put in a more conscious effort to socialise and was given more roles in a short period of time. The system was unique as it wasnt a standard pos system and most things need to be manually adjusted to cater to situations (changing of payment method halfway, looking for an item that wasnt updated in inventory system, refunds) so I ended up asking questions often to clairfy as I wouldnt want to mess it up. due to that eventually I was asked to leave. Which was an interesting experience since i was in the management role in my full time job.

After that I started to have insomnia, slept around 8 in the morning daily for a few weeks. Met friends who was willing to help me out and now Im on a project based role to help out their business and the income is decent. We met a few times to work on the project and so far its been better. But the nature of the role takes a few months. So sometimes its idle. during this period I get alittle ‘worried’ that Im not doing anything and may reflect how much Im willing to do to make this work. but at the same time I dont want to be constantly asking questions since that didnt turn out too well the last time haha. Usually i’ll meet them during weekends. So during weekdays I cant relax, I feel that if I take it as this is going to work out I’ll be getting myself too comfortable too soon. I cant sleep till 5am and now im waking up at 1pm. which isnt really the best feeling. I’m not sure if its because things are not moving fast enough or I am just thinking too much.


Hi @user952

Thank you for sharing with us your struggles, it sounds like you’ve been through quite a journey lately, working through changes in your career and trying to find a path that aligns with your goals and values. Sometimes, transition periods can be both exciting and challenging, bringing about various emotions and uncertainties.

It’s completely normal to feel a bit uncertain during times of change, and it’s clear that you’re putting effort into finding a balance that suits you. Here are a few suggestions that might help you manage the current phase:

  1. Establish a Routine: Setting a daily routine can help regulate your sleep patterns and provide a sense of structure. Try to wake up and go to bed at consistent times, even on weekends.

  2. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your project-based work into smaller, manageable goals. This can help you focus on short-term achievements and reduce the feeling of stagnation during idle periods.

  3. Stay Connected: Maintaining social connections is really important, especially during transitional phases. Keep in touch with friends, family, or even former colleagues for support and a sense of community.

  4. Explore Hobbies and Interests: Use this time to engage in activities you enjoy or explore new hobbies. It can be a great way to not only pass the time but also to discover new aspects of yourself and potentially find inspiration for your career path.

Remember, it’s okay to take some time to adjust and figure things out. Be patient with yourself and focus on your own unique journey.

If you do need to speak to a mental health professional for more support, please do reach out to the nearest Family Service Centre for help.

Do let us know how else we can support you. Hear from you soon!

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Thanks for the prompt reply. I will take not on the pointers mentioned and work on it. :slightly_smiling_face:


Thanks for sharing your story, @user952! Have you considered trying out for gig jobs during your idle time? I think it’s great that you have support from your friends on a project basis but I can also understand the anxiety that comes during lull periods.

Maybe another flexible gig job would help fill up the time and make life a bit more meaningful?