I have been feeling lazy

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Hi all. I don’t really know how to write this so just stay with me.

Lately i have been really lazy to do anything, especially on job. I wasnt always like this.

A little back story, I have been working in the industry for almost 4 years. The first 3 and half years is at 1 company and just recently January this year i decided to jump to another company. It was quite hard for me because i always am a play safe person. During those 3.5 years, my work was crazy a lot, i often do overtime and such. So i know i am not a lazy person :smiling_face_with_tear:

Anyway, for the past 2-3 weeks, i have been really difficult to do my job. i procrastinate and do other things. I even found this website during my working hour. For now it does not yet affecting my work outcome but i feel like it really almost there. Its not like i switch job from super busy to not busy that my momentum is different. I still have a lot to do. But that’s the thing, why am i so lazy :weary_face:

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Hey @user6576 !

Thank you for sharing about this, I think a lot of people feel this way at times but it can be hard to talk about it, so I admire your courage in bringing this up :smiley:

It sounds like you’ve been feeling really tired and burnt out lately. As you’ve shared, your past experiences in your work as shown that you are hardworking and have been able to persevere through it all, so you’re not a lazy person. Many of us, including myself, find that we struggle to concentrate at work at times, especially when we haven’t had a good break in awhile. Know that you’re not alone in feeling this way <3 While I’m not sure how your currennt work environment is, I hope that you would be able to request for a short break if you really feel like you need it :slight_smile: Take some time to do your favorite activities or just chill at home~ And if you feel comfortable with it, perhaps talking to your friends about this will give you more support :smiley:

all the best! you sound like a really hardworking person so please take care of yourself and take breaks when you need it :smiley:

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Hey there, thanks for sharing! :sparkles:

From what you’ve said, it’s clear you’re not a lazy person at all. You’ve pushed through years of heavy workload and made a big leap into a new job, which already says a lot about your resilience.

Perhaps after switching from such a demanding role, your mind and body are just looking for a bit of rest—even if things are still busy. It doesn’t mean you’ve lost your drive; maybe it’s just your system slowing down after running at full speed for so long.

Also, adjusting to a new environment can be disorienting. You might still be figuring out your role, the pace, the expectations—or even just emotionally recovering from your last job. That transition can feel invisible, but it takes energy.

Be kind to yourself :yellow_heart: It’s okay to have dips in motivation, and the fact that you’re noticing this and reflecting on it already shows awareness :sunflower: Maybe try giving yourself small wins—a task or two you do complete each day—and build momentum from there. You’ve done hard things before. You’ll find your rhythm again! :blush:

Wishing you all the best, and if you ever feel like sharing again, feel free to. Would love to hear how it goes!

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Hi @user6576,

It sounds like you’re in a difficult place right now, caught between your past work habits and the frustration of feeling stuck. I hear the confusion and frustration you have when trying to reconcile your previous drive with your current state of procrastination.

I understand that it’s frustrating to feel like you’re not living up to your potential, especially when you’ve proven before that you can do the work. It’s important to acknowledge that this isn’t about being lazy; it’s about recognising the internal shift you’re experiencing, and it’s okay to feel disoriented by it. You’ve been working really hard for a long time, and it’s understandable that some part of you might need a break, even if it feels confusing.

You’re not alone in feeling like this, and I want to reassure you that it’s okay to have moments of struggle. You’re experiencing what many people go through when they face burnout or feel emotionally drained. It’s important to be gentle with yourself right now and not add to the pressure you’re already feeling. You’re not defined by this moment.

It might help to start by taking small steps to get back on track. Can you identify a simple task you can accomplish today, even if it’s something small? Setting a small goal might help you regain a sense of control. Also, have you been able to explore what’s going on emotionally outside of work? Sometimes, our emotional stress can affect our ability to stay motivated, and understanding those feelings can help us address them more effectively.

I can hear how much you want to work through this and regain your sense of momentum. It might also help to talk through these feelings with someone—whether it’s a friend, a counsellor, or a therapist. Having support can make a huge difference in times like this.

If you’re open to it, consider reflecting on when these feelings of procrastination and frustration first started. Have there been any changes in your work or personal life recently that might be influencing how you feel? Exploring these questions could give us more clarity on how to address your feelings of stagnation.

You’ve already shown great strength in recognising this challenge. With the right tools and support, you can begin to take steps toward moving past this block, one small step at a time. Remember, progress isn’t always linear, but every step forward counts.

Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it. You’re not alone in this journey.

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Hey @user6576 , from what you just shared, I think you sound a lot more hardworking than my colleagues already! But joke aside, I wonder if you’re tired rather than lazy? Not the kind of tired a good night’s sleep can fix, but that deeper kind—mental and emotional fatigue from pushing hard for years.

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hey @user6576 , thank you for being so brave to share on this platform! acknowledging our struggles and opening up about it isn’t easy, and i admire you for that.

while it may not be very obvious on the surface, burn out and feeling unmotivated to do anything is something all of us go through (i feel the same too) - and there’s no shame in that! spending 3.5 years at your previous job with so much overtime work - i can only imagine how tiring it must have been :frowning: and now, adjusting to your new job may be pretty overwhelimg

but i want to remind you that its completely okay to not feel like yourself at times! be patient with yourself :heart: sometimes, feeling this way could be our body’s way of telling us to take a break and slow down. going on walks, meditation or making time for your hobbies are possible ways to take your mind off work and spend time doing the things you love :smiling_face:

as someone who loves to play it safe too, i’m really proud of you for making this big decision to switch companies - i’ll be here cheering you on!! :raising_hands: