At the beginning I trusted the process too. There are things that I don’t take for granted. But still I feel the weight of the world is on me. I feel so uneasy and unwell. I hated myself so much. I don’t see any progress in my life. Not trying to compare myself to others but I feel like I’m stuck while everyone is stepping forward. Little things irritates me and makes me feel like I’m not even worth it anymore.
Dear 2227,
It sounds like you’re struggling with some huge and heavy feelings of burnout, self-doubt, self-worth, self-loathing, frustration and a strong sense of being stuck. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed and discouraged when things don’t seem to go as well or progress as quickly as we think it should. Sometimes when the going has been tough for a protracted length of time, it can be really tough going. Please know that you’re not alone in this feeling and you are definitely worth it. 
Remember that progress is not always linear, and it’s okay to take time to figure things out. Comparing yourself to others can make us feel a lot worse, as everyone’s journey is unique and oftentimes, we really do not know what is really going on inside them or behind closed doors. 
It’s important to practice self-compassion and acknowledge your strengths. Take small steps towards self-care and prioritize your well-being. Remember, you are hundred percent worth it, and your life has value and purpose. 
If you have not already, consider doing the following:
- Keep an emotions journal to track your emotions, including triggers and physical symptoms.
- Practice relaxation techniques like deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, or mindfulness meditation.
- Engage in regular physical activity for better emotional regulation and possibly alleviate ruminations or overthinking.
- Explore cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) or any other modalities, which can help you address underlying thought patterns and behaviours contributing to how you feel.
Due to the intensity of how you have been feeling, do seriously consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings and develop coping strategies. You deserve to feel seen, heard, and supported, okay?
You can start by talking to your family doctor or doctor at a local polyclinic for a referral or search online for professionals for counselling or therapy. To find registered counsellors and psychologists, you could refer to the below websites:
• Singapore Association of Counsellors: List of Registered Counsellors – Singapore Association for Counselling
• Singapore Psychological Society: https://v1.singaporepsychologicalsociety.org/srp-membership-directory/
If you would like to explore services at social service agencies (SSA), you could try out the following or walk into the nearest Family Service Centre (FSC):
• Touch Community Services: 1800-377-2252
• Care Corner Counselling Centre: 1800-353-5800
• Family Service Centres: https://www.msf.gov.sg/our-services/directories
Keep in mind that it’s okay to not be okay, and it’s important to be kind to yourself as you navigate this challenging time. You are doing the best you can, and that is something to be proud of!
Take very good care of yourself, 2227!
northernlights 