hello, recently i noticed my friends has been avoiding me because last time i did talk about his family because he talk mine. Now recent days I’ve been realising that everyone starts to avoid me like I’m the problem here.
it’s really stressing me out.
Hi Arvind0411
Thank you for courageously coming forward with what you are experiencing with your friends. I agree that it can be really hurtful and confusing when friends start avoiding us, especially if we don’t understand their change in behaviour, and when it happens so suddenly.
Considering the context you provided, it’s possible that your friend might have felt uncomfortable or defensive when you discussed their family. Here are some suggestions:
Reflect.
Consider how your words might have impacted your friend. At the same time, also reflect if this friend’s words about your family were hurtful and if there could have been more effective ways you could have communicated your feelings when you were hurt.
Open communication.
Have an honest conversation with your friend to clear the air and understand each others’ perspective. Apologize if you think you could have been more tactful and sensitive or your remarks not warranted. Reach out to your friend and apologize for any hurt or discomfort caused. Explain how affected you were when he spoke badly about your family. This could help your friend understand you better and know boundaries not to step over.
Rebuild the friendship
If both parties are willing, rebuild with patience, give and take, mutual respect and kindness.
Give space to each other
Respect your friend’s and your boundaries and needs, even if it means taking a break from the friendship.
Self-care
Focus on nurturing other relationships and engaging in activities that bring you joy.
Learn and grow
Use this experience to develop greater empathy and understanding in your relationships.
Remember, friendships involve ups and downs. By addressing the issue openly and sincerely, you can work towards healing and strengthening your friendship.