Idk why but I feel like my friends attitude towards me has been getting a lot worse recently. It’s not like I’ve offended her or anything, but the way she talks to me and acts around me is making me feel like I did something wrong and that she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore. How do people grow apart when nothing changed between us? Everytime they talk to me I feel like they’re talking down to me like I don’t belong in their social circle. If it isn’t that then they act like I’m unimportant
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Hello @anon5! Thank you for taking the courage to share your experience with us.
I’m very sorry you’re experiencing these emotions. It sounds like a difficult circumstance, and it’s difficult when you don’t know what’s driving this change. Although individuals do alter sometimes, it’s not always your fault. They may be unaware of the effects of anything happening in their lives on you.
When the relationship with someone you care about changes, it’s normal to feel hurt, particularly if you don’t know why. Feeling as if you are no longer a member of the group or that you are not important is difficult. Have you had an opportunity to discuss your feelings with her? Sometimes it would be helpful to simply be honest with her and let her know how her behaviour is making you feel. It could also help you figure out if she’s acting differently because of anything she’s going through or whether there’s something you’re not seeing.
In any case, keep in mind that you are entitled to love and respect and that your sentiments are real. When you haven’t done anything wrong, you shouldn’t feel as if you don’t belong. I hope things improve for you, even if it’s difficult.
Hi @anon5,
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It must be really tough to feel that your friend’s attitude towards you has changed without any apparent reason. It’s important to remember that friendships can go through ups and downs, and sometimes people grow apart without any specific event causing it. Your friend’s behavior might be influenced by things going on in their life that have nothing to do with you. Nevertheless, it’s completely valid to feel hurt and confused by their actions.
Have you considered having an open conversation with your friend about how you’re feeling? It might be helpful to express your concerns and ask if there’s anything that you might not be aware of that’s affecting your friendship. Clear communication can sometimes bridge gaps and mend misunderstandings. You’re deserving of friendships that make you feel valued and respected. Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself the space to process these feelings.
Hi that sounds really tough on you, maybe something happened that caused them to act this way or it could be something that was not related to you at all. Sadly, people change and things are not always the same that we hope them to be. However, how you feel is still important and you are important. Maybe if you wish to, you could have an open conversation with them to let them know how you feel and also find out how they feel so that you both would understand what the other is feeling and going through? Hopefully, things get better for both of you and you both stay friends!
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hey @anon5 , i’m sorry to hear about what you’ve been going through - it must be really hurtful to be treated that way, especially by someone you care about.
miscommunications could happen in friendships - it’s completely normal! what really matters is how we address them. while it is definitely tough to initiate, having a conversation with your friend might help the both of you understand each other’s thoughts and feelings better.
as time passes and we grow older, people change. while that’s something that we can’t avoid, it doesn’t mean that change is a bad thing! change often comes with growth, and its part of self-discovery, figuring out who we are and what matters to us!
i hope that you and your friend will be able to work things out 
but i also want to reassure you that its okay for you and your friend to grow in different directions. some people are meant to walk with us for only part of the journey, but that doesn’t make the friendship any less meaningful!
you deserve to be supported and loved in your friendships 
wishing you all the best and i’m here for you if you need to talk!
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