i realised that i justvgave to get over it
Hey @user1328,
It sounds like you’ve been dealing with some pretty heavy emotions lately, and I can understand why you’re feeling down after finding out about her relationship. When you’ve liked someone for a long time, and you’ve built up that connection, it’s natural to feel disappointed when things don’t turn out the way you were hoping.
I’ve noticed that you’ve had frequent dreams about her, and that’s a pretty strong sign that you’ve developed a deep emotional attachment to her over time. It’s totally normal to have dreams about someone when they’ve been on your mind a lot, especially when you care about them. Sometimes, these dreams reflect unresolved feelings or desires that we haven’t had the chance to fully express or work through in our waking life. It might be that your mind is trying to make sense of the situation, or even seeking closure.
One thing that might help right now is to remember that relationships, whether friendships or romantic connections, develop over time and quality matters more than speed. Patience is key when it comes to building something meaningful. Even though it might feel like a missed opportunity right now, that doesn’t mean your chance for connection or a meaningful relationship in the future is lost. Relationships grow in layers, and sometimes things don’t happen right away because the timing isn’t quite right.
It’s easy to get caught up in wondering “what if,” but try not to dwell too much on the past or on what could’ve been done differently. The reality is that relationships take time to evolve, and they require more than just timing or initial attraction—they need understanding, patience, and shared experiences. The connection you’ve built with her is still valuable, and while it might not lead to romance right now, that doesn’t mean you won’t find another deep, fulfilling relationship down the road, with her or someone else.
If you’re feeling down, it’s okay to take a step back and focus on yourself for a while. Sometimes giving yourself space to process and heal is exactly what you need. You’ve got a lot to offer in terms of building connections with people, and when the time is right, you’ll find someone who appreciates that, whether it’s her or someone new.
Take your time, and don’t rush through this process. Relationships are more about quality than speed, and each experience—whether it’s a friendship or something more—helps you grow and understand what you truly want and need.
Hang in there, and trust that with time, things will start to feel clearer. Let us know how you feel?