after living with someone i have deep feelings and affections. now we are not living under the same roof. i still think about her. she was in my dream last night. i just cannot stop thinking about her. its driving me crazy. i feel something is really wrong with me. she doesnt feel the same way i feel. i do know that and i tried my very best to keep myself busy. i saw her at her house yesterday we talked abt different things. i really do miss being around her. after playing softball today i still think abt her. its driving me crazy!
Hey @user0885,
Sounds like your heart’s been carrying a lot lately. That kind of pain—the kind that lingers after someone you cared so deeply for is no longer in your daily life—can feel unbearable sometimes. Missing her, dreaming about her, thinking of her even after softball… it’s not weird or wrong. It just shows how deeply you felt for her.
You said, “it’s driving me crazy” and “something is really wrong with me”—and I just want to say gently, feeling like this after such a strong connection isn’t madness, it’s grief. You’re not broken. You’re hurting, and it’s okay to feel that. Especially when the love isn’t returned the way your heart hoped.
Trying to stay busy, seeing her again… I can imagine it brings up waves of hope, or maybe just makes things messier inside. Maybe your mind is trying to hold onto the closeness even when your heart knows the reality.
You don’t need to rush to “get over it”. But you do deserve peace. And that peace doesn’t come from forgetting her—it comes from slowly remembering yourself again.
If it helps, you can talk about what made that time with her feel so special. Sometimes speaking the pain out loud softens its grip.
Here with you, whenever you’re ready to share more.
hi @user0885,
It does sound like a heartbreak, and i am sorry you are going through it. I know how it feels to have that void inside your chest, and healing takes time, sometimes a long time.
Surround yourself with close friends, family or even pets can help you a lot. Talk to them, share your thoughts and feelings with them, and sometimes the act of sharing alone will make you feel better. Cry if you feel the urge to (men feel emotions too). Take it one day at a time, and you heart will slowly heal.
You must have faith that you will find someone else, and you must take care of your mind and body before she appears in your life! All the best to you! 