Don’t you ever feel like you have no privacy? Well that’s my case. I’m a child, 10 years old to be exact just a few years from becoming a teen. I have secrets that I can’t share with my mom, I have an online diary containing all my mental and emotional problems. She likes confiscating my phone and I often cry about it, why? Cuz I have a lot of things in there. but is it really my fault I don’t wanna talk to her? I can’t. Because she never keeps it a secret…she shares it with everyone, and I hate that!! I feel like a weird kid with a clingy mom…I don’t wanna be weird, I know she cares for me but that’s too much for me…:((
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Hi @user12310,
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of emotions, and it must be really tough when you feel like you can’t have the privacy you need. It’s completely normal to want to keep some things to yourself, and it’s important to have a safe space to express your thoughts and feelings. It can be very hard when you feel like your privacy is being invaded, especially when it comes to your personal diary. It’s understandable that you feel frustrated and upset about this situation.
It’s clear you care about your mom, and it’s also clear you need some boundaries to feel comfortable. Wanting to have a bit of independence doesn’t make you weird at all—it’s a part of growing up. It might be helpful to talk to your mom and explain how you’re feeling in a calm and honest way. Maybe you could come up with a compromise where she respects your need for privacy while also being there for you when you need her. Remember, you’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to seek help from someone you trust, like a teacher or a school counsellor, if you need to.
I hear you are looking to have your own private space. It’s tough when your mum might be clingy or do checks on your devices.
What are some of the reasons she gives for doing so?
And are there some spaces that you can ensure is yours, such as talking to friends or other family members?
Hello, I understand that you will also like some privacy to write down your thoughts. Perhaps you could also share with her your frustrations? Alternatively, you can also share your problems to other trusted adults and close friends. 
I feel you buddy! It can be daunting if you feel like you don’t have privacy. Regardless of age, there are things that can be shared and must be kept private. Back when I was 9, I had a medical issue that caused me to be hospitalised for a long period of time. My parents , who wanted to learn more about me and seemingly wanted to better support me, opened and read my confessions in my diary. They then told me how they were reacting to my confessions that I made in there which made me feel awkward. It made me feel like I have no one to share my thoughts and feeling with 
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It’s valid to feel awkward or uncomfortable when you have your private matters being publicised. regarding my diary matter, my physical diary had a lock that came with it. I was told to remove the lock because they felt it was ‘not necessary’.
For me I dealt with this, by trying to make myself very clear with what I am fine with. In essence, establishing my own boundaries. Even if they are our parents, they can only intervene in certain areas. Have you tried expressing this concern to your parents? If not, you can do that as a first step. You can also talk to your school counsellor about this if you find it comfortable.