Gang idk how to say this but yesterday I found my phone clearly looked through but I ignored it and push it aside and in the car I was texting and my mom kept trying to peek so I cover my screen cus I want my privacy and she said “you don’t show me then I might as well confiscate your phone” like wth then the later in the day I found my phone timed out cus “someone kept trying passwords but luckily I changed it and when I confronted my mom she screamed at me and just exploded shouting for me to confess then she’ll confess but I haven’t really done anything but my friend did text me saying I should just ignore them and go out cus they promised me cus they said I wasn’t allowed to go but yk I’m a teenager I do ■■■■ so I just gave up in trying to “argue” then the next day I saw that she texted my bff behind my back and when I asked my bff she said no then proceeded to text my mom and I told my bff I’m on my period to see if she would also tell and then later at like midnight I was asked by my mom if I’m hungry and my dad say I ate a lot today then my mom retorts back saying that I’m growing my body but usually she would just not say anything and just say let her eat so at this point I’m mad alr but I didn’t do anything but I have bad bad issues including trust issues so I block everyone except my family and my2 friends who are my emotional support and delete there contact set all my accounts to private and block everyone agian change my username and profile picture too and try wiping everything till it looked squeaky clean
I’m just so Mad that she lied and broke my trust for my mom and now ex best friend
Hi @user8446 thank you for sharing this here. It really sounds like you’ve been through a lot, and it’s completely understandable that you feel angry and hurt. Having your phone looked through and your privacy invaded like that can make anyone feel uncomfortable and betrayed. When you found your phone timed out from too many password attempts, that must have felt like another confirmation that your boundaries weren’t respected.
It also sounds really painful that your mom shouted at you when you tried to talk about it, and then seeing that she texted your best friend behind your back must have felt like another layer of betrayal. It makes total sense that this situation has affected your trust, especially when both your mom and your friend crossed those boundaries.
You deserve to have your privacy respected and to feel safe in your relationships. Taking a step back from others right now sounds like your way of protecting yourself, and that’s completely okay. I hope you can give yourself some time and space to calm down and maybe talk to someone you trust when you’re ready.
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Hey @user8446
I can see the hurt and the deep cut you experienced. It’s not just about messages anymore, right? It’s about feeling like your own mum used her power to strip away your freedom and dignity.
From what you’ve described, it felt like both of you were trapped in a silent tug-of-war, your mum’s fear and helplessness showing up as control, your own call for presence showing up as anger and withdrawal. Both expecting the other to just know the rules, but never really saying them out loud. When that stays unspoken for too long, it becomes this slow erosion of trust until one day it bursts out in spying, shouting, and shame.
The way you described blocking everyone, wiping things clean, it sounded like a desperate way to reclaim yourself, to say “this space is mine.” It’s clear that you’re protecting your esteem after being humiliated in front of people who matter. And now, with your bff seeming to side with your mum, it’s like the whole world turned against you. That looked first like anger, then underneath it, sadness.
I also noticed what’s underneath the anger, did it meant that the shame of being disrespected, or the sadness of losing trust? When you can name that layer, you can start taking back your voice. Trust doesn’t break overnight, and it won’t rebuild overnight either.
Maybe for now, do you feel that both of you are hurting, just in different languages?