chat:fearful: ok so basically i have my violin class like three time a week right and i have the male violin instructor but i never really gaf abt it coz like its sg man but this guy has always been touchy is the lessons and lowk that okay ryt like if maybe ur naturally touchy but NO. like gng….hes like a bit too comfy:sob: like he’ll causally touch me in my shoulders, or go behind me and full on caress my arm to adjust my left hand grip like chill out bro u ain’t a c.ai bot man ur is trynna fix my arm vibrato and guess what. it gets BETTER( worse). THIS GUY MAN he’s like complimenting me right like “ohhhh wowowowo u did soooo good yayayaayya” and i’m like “yayayayay tysmmmm” and he’s like “oh yeah a pretty girl like you is talented too?! wowow i bet the guys are DROOLING over you!”
but you see idk if i exaggerated ts or not coz it’s like my memory right so lowk gng idk if he’s trynna groom me or like is he is a bit freaky:sob: idk man how to do i word this also why do i sound so BRAINROTTED:fearful: but that’s something for LATERRR:money_mouth_face:
Hey @user5082, from your post, I can tell that your violin instructor is likely being too friendly and that it is bothering you a lot. Please do tell a trusted adult or friend about this, and together you can then decide on what’s the best course of action to take. It is important to set firm boundaries with your violin instructor to ensure that you are comfortable during the violin lessons. Please don’t be afraid to tell someone about this, you should stand up for yourself.
Hello @user5082 it does sound like this male figure is making you feel uncomfortable. Have you spoken to your parent about this? I encourage you to speak with your mum/dad or a trusted adult about this situation. You can call this helpline 1800-777-0000 if you feel more comfortable getting advice from professionals.
Hey @user5082, your violin male teacher is definitely crossing the line. Being friendly is one thing but going as far as to touch you often and even offer questionable encouragement rings alarm bells. Trust your instincts. Reach out to a trusted adult on this as soon as possible.
I am quite concerned when you mentioned that you are being touched by your male teacher in a forceful and inappropriate manner.
As mentioned by @yoshi, we would encourage you to call MSF’s Sexual Harassment Helpline at 1800-777-0000 or make an online report ( NAVH Reporting Form ).
I need to be clear with you: this is not a joking matter. It’s serious. When a teacher or instructor uses touch and comments in a sexual way, it’s not just “freaky”. In Singapore, it can be considered outrage of modesty or sexual harassment, and it’s serious enough that the authorities would investigate if reported.
It makes sense you mixed fear with humour, a lot of people do that when they’re uncomfortable. But the fact you even wondered if he’s grooming you shows your instincts are sharp. Trust them.
Can i ask, were there other students or anyone else in the class when this happened? And have you told an adult you trust, like your parents, guardians, or even a school staff exactly what he did and said? Those steps matter because they help you not feel doubtful about your experience.
For now, a few things you should do right away:
write down what you remember (date, time, what was touched/said). even small details help.
share with a trusted adult today, not later. if they dismiss you, try another adult you trust.
if you feel ready, get a family member to accompany you in making a report with the authorities, or reach out to AWARE’s Sexual Assault Care Centre for confidential advice.
This isn’t about you overreacting, it’s about your right to feel safe in a classroom and what your instructor did crosses that line. Please don’t brush this off as just “brainrotted.” It’s not and it’s valid. It deserves to be taken seriously.
If you do get to read this, please bring this up..
Thanks for ur sharing. It really does sound very serious what ur violin instructor is doing to u. According to ur sharing, he could be bordering on harassment. Take courage and take heart. I’m with the others here who replied to u that u talk to ur parents about this. I went through this though from a guy’s perspective. I was extremely confused and just didn’t know who to talk to and that allowed the driving instructor to touch me inappropriately. And it went on for some time much to my regrets. It caused me to develop inappropriate views of my sexuality. I don’t hope for ur situation to escalate to become like mine. I hope and trust that u will do the wisest thing. Best regards to u and thanks for ur courage to share here!
Hi @user5082 I know it feels so weird and uncomfortable — but what you’re saying doesn’t sound like brainrot, the feelings are real and it’s okay to say you’re not comfortable. If you feel like something isn’t right, then it isn’t. You deserve to feel comfortable and respected, and thank you for taking the step to share here.
I really encourage you to tell an adult you trust. Because what you’re feeling is valid and you deserve to feel safe If you’re wondering about how to word it, you could think about what the actions were, and say how it made you feel. And most importantly — you don’t have to defend him, because if it made you feel that way, that’s more than enough for you to speak up about it
Hi @user5082, what you’re describing doesn’t sound like harmless, professional instruction, it sounds uncomfortable and inappropriate. Even if you’re not 100 % sure of every detail, the fact that you feel uneasy is already important. A good teacher should correct posture or technique in a way that’s clear, brief, and respectful, and compliments shouldn’t cross into comments about your looks or dating life.
You should trust your feelings. You don’t need to “prove” that it’s wrong for it to matter. If it feels off to you, that’s enough.
Maybe you can also let a trusted adult, friend, or family member know what happened. They can help you decide whether to speak to the studio’s management or change instructors.
idk man how to do i word this also why do i sound so BRAINROTTED:fearful: but that’s something for LATERRR:money_mouth_face:
