i really hate school a lot especially after entering jc, because there’s literally no one i know there and i was very lonely in school.i constantly cry everytime i get home cuz i just don’t like it there in school, like the people, the way they act. i did seek help from school counsellor, she would always affirm me that what i did was right….cuz whenever i am on time for classes but others don’t. my teacher will say things like how come someone can come on time the rest can’t. This kinda make people hate me abit, but my counsellor always say what i did was right,i was being responsible. in my opinion, yeah she’s right but that means i don’t have friends…..
Recently, there’s an incident between me and my male table partner, he kept touching me and kinda make me uncomfortable, so i asked him to stop but he continued. I kept enduring till a certain time like even his friend touched me. So like i brought it up to teachers and yes i got hated again cuz my classmates thinks that i am making a big deal out of it….I really don’t know what to do…
and the reason why i didn’t want to ask my counsellor for help is cuz i lowkey don’t like her. She would always semi-force me into thinking like what’s right or what’s wrong.
I hate school a lot and i would always find excuse to skip school…idk what i should d….
I was being touched by a male classmate when i was in primary 3, and he will move his hand under my shirt and touch my stomach. But back that i was too young to know what to do.
But for you, i hope you can consider seeking counselling help outside your school. So check with your nearest family service centre or youth support groups. And also report this issue and that stupid teacher to your principal. If they still ignore you, pls bring this up to MOE. This is no joke. And if you feel like you are sexually harassed, pls just file a police report.
Dont give up school for such lousy people.
okay like my parents did helped me to like speak up on this issue…cuz i feel really awkward to talk abt it…the school couldn’t find evidence tho so they said like they can’t do anything about it…my parents did want to file a police report but school said there’s no evidence…so we can’t do anything abt it
there’s no evidence cuz everything happened in the classroom…but there’s evidence of my table partner’s friend touching me cuz he did that at a corridor.
i just lowkey dunno how to move on from here….am scared of going to school…like i did listen to what my counsellor said to be friendly….i felt i did it the extent that i am pleasing people most of the time, putting others needs more than my own… but the counsellor will always say it’s okay find other friends but saying is always easier than doing especially i am like an introvert.
but thanks for the advice! i did thought abt arranging to see a psych but i heard all those process just to see one takes more than 2months….idk if i can hang it there mentally😭
Dear @user3870
Thank you for sharing what you have been going through in school (JC). I can feel how distressing this overall school experience has been for you. The other JC students in your cohort don’t sound very disciplined or collegial and it’s understandable you feel unhappy. I also see that you have started to dread and ‘hate’ school and I don’t think this is healthy for you, dear.
It may help to do a honest and objective evaluation of what has been the positives and negatives of the JC school experience so far. Also do reflect if this current JC route getting you closer or further away from your long-term educational goal? This may help you get clearer on what you could do next to ensure you achieve your educational and future career goals. I suggest you also consider speaking to your school’s ECG counsellor on the various pathways to meet your goals. Engage your parents too so that they can offer some guidance and support. Your well-being matters and is a priority.
The incident in school about the unwanted touch by the male table partner and his friend is not acceptable at all. Please know that you had every right to stand up to the disrespectful wrong doer and his friend.
I applaud you for your courage to do so. I agree that it is also hurtful to realise the classmates are choosing to blame you for reporting the wrongdoers instead of confronting the wrongdoers. I can sense your hurt for their lack of empathy and their willingness to minimise/downplay wrongs just because the perpetrators are their friends.
I sincerely believe that it is important that the perpetrators are brought to task for their actions. You fully deserve the safest environment. Reporting it to higher up is to ensure they do not repeat this again. Do discuss with your parents again on reporting them using the evidence you mentioned that one incident occurred in the corridor.
As you go through this challenging period, please keep reaching out here for support whenever needed, and know you are not alone. 
Hello @user3870,
Thank you for opening up about your experience in JC - it’s clear that this environment has been deeply distressing for you. The lack of discipline and collegiality among your peers understandably contributes to your unhappiness, and it’s concerning that school has become a source of dread. It might be helpful to take a step back and reflect honestly on both the positives and negatives of your JC journey so far. Consider whether this path is truly aligning with your long-term educational and career goals. Speaking with your school’s ECG counsellor could offer clarity on alternative pathways, and involving your parents may provide additional support and guidance. Your well-being is important and deserves to be prioritized.
Regarding the incident of unwanted physical contact, please know that your response was entirely justified and courageous. It’s painful to see classmates defend the perpetrators rather than stand up for what’s right, and your hurt is valid. No one should have to endure such disrespect, and reporting the behavior is a necessary step to ensure accountability and prevent recurrence. You deserve a safe and respectful school environment. If you haven’t already, consider discussing with your parents the possibility of escalating the report, especially since you have evidence from the corridor incident. It’s likely that CCTV evidence of his acts were captured if it was in a public area, and you have the right to speak up.
During this difficult time, please continue seeking support from the police - you are not alone, and your voice matters.
While I am not in the position to say if seeing a psychiatrist has a long waiting time (or not), I am able to say that it would be beneficial to speak to a professional. Hence, I’d encourage you to explore the following resources: