Everytime there’s a misunderstanding, it always blows up. In an instance, whenever I want to tell a little tip on doing something, they always assume that I am critiquing them. Then, the misunderstanding escalates to a loud argument and they always bring up old topics/mistakes that I have moved on from. From that, they blame me for causing this argument everytime and always say that no one understands them or the pain they’ve been through. It’s ironic because they have never tried to understand what I’ve been through, and always assume that it’s easier to be me. Like they always say that their life is harder and that always look down upon my work and my problems.
Also, they blame random people in my life like my friends, thinking that they influence me to become a bad child EVEN THOUGH I know for sure that my friends have nothing to do with this. There are also some moments where they are actually the one that made me angry, yet they blame my friends, me playing games and watching youtube, and me being too emotional/sensitive or always looking for attention/pity whenever I cry during arguments (I’m NOT).
I’m really tired and I feel like I’m alone in this household because even if I try to talk to other people in this house, they’ve always been dismissive about it/not wanting to talk about it to just ‘end the argument/conflict.’
I’m sorry if I’m not explaining this clearly/it is going nowhere, I just want to say it right now because if I wait long enough for my mind to be stable, I would forget about it.
I need help.
hello, thank you for sharing. I understand it can be stressful in that situation and you dont deserve the carry that weight alone. sharing your feelings here is a good step. perhaps you can also confide on your friends, and try talking to your parents when they are more relaxed. rooting for you op 
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first, i’d like to say it isn’t easy dealing with such a situation in a space that’s supposed to be equally your own. i can tell this has been very frustrating for you as it can feel like you’re being misunderstood, invalidated and provoked.
i do experience similar instances at home too where i disagree with my parents or feel like my boundaries are overstepped. i still don’t really have an answer to how to resolve cause tbh i also feel it’s a matter of time thing for my situation, till i get my own place etc. and also cause it feels like a deep-rooted generational culture (ie. parents being more authoritarian)
i did find that it helps me to write down my frustrations or share about them with my counsellor. so it’s great that you took the initiative to share when the feelings felt fresh. a much healthier outlet. i also feel like sharing with my counsellor was helpful as she provided me with the vocabulary to help initiate discussions with my parents or verbally share my boundaries. cause i’m more of a believer to speak my mind (respectfully) instead of sweeping things under the rug.
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I understand how you must be feeling right now, it must not be easy to feel like you are singled out and alone when you just want to feel less alone. It would be good to talk to a close friend for a start to support you and maybe you may feel less lonely but it would also be good to share what you are feeling with your parents. Take your time to tell them how you feel truthfully and why you feel this way. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up 
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