How to avoid caring too much at work that might cause resentment for my superior ?.
The story comes like this,
The meeting end. I feedback that my students I taking care of doesn’t improved with the increment of medication dosage as directed by my doctor to my principal.
But, I believe that the suggestions didn’t help and he was talking to my HOD.
So he chided me that medication issues should be decide by the doctor.
Believing that my suggestions I trying to seek help of“not to care too much about others”, “How not to comment too much or being opinionated that might be a bother to those who I work with”.
Hi Ouchast_93
It sounds like you’re feeling torn between wanting to do your best at work and the concern that your input might not always be well received. Striking a balance between your deep care for your responsibilities and the people you work with can be a challenging task. It’s clear that you’re reflecting on this situation thoughtfully, which shows how much you value positive working relationships.
The incident you mentioned—where you provided feedback about the students and medication—seems to have left you feeling unsure about how much to say in future situations. It’s normal to feel confused when your intentions to help aren’t met with the response you hoped for. It sounds like you’re trying to figure out how to share your thoughts in a way that supports the team without overstepping or creating tension.
One approach could be to focus on framing your input as questions or suggestions rather than definitive feedback. For example, instead of making a statement about what you believe doesn’t work, you could ask, “Do you think there are any other ways we could support the students in this area?” This keeps the conversation collaborative and allows others to engage without feeling challenged.
It’s also okay to step back when you feel like you might be overextending yourself. Ask yourself, "Is this something I need to address right now, or can I let it go and trust others to handle it?” Finding that balance can help you care without feeling the weight of responsibility for everything.
You’re doing a great job reflecting on your actions and how they impact your work environment. That kind of self-awareness is a strength, and it will serve you well as you navigate these situations. Small adjustments, like focusing on collaboration and setting boundaries for yourself, can make a big difference over time. You’re already on the right path, and I’m confident you’ll find the balance you’re looking for.
Im not sure of the context here: why do the students need to take meds? What field of work?
Special education.
Am just voicing out for him if he’s has severe migraine. Can he get anti migraine medication for him.
Mean no harm to the students, he just chided me to let the parents decide.
I see. Sorry that’s not good
During apprasial he- (the principal) mentioned, “oh you’re developing as a teacher and as you work for a few years you will get in the pace of being a subject teacher is ok, take the chance to learn and you are learning”.
Then he backhanded complimented, “oh I find that the Generation Z and millennials aren’t tenacious like what our generation does".
I see our ex colleague had lefted within an year. The principal seeing me doing art myself as I’m a self taught artist, He asked if I’m keen to do an art workshop with down syndrome individuals and sending me to makaton workshop .
Which it seems not promising. Sounded like “empty promise".