I often get waves of sadness drained and like just feeling bad in general its always there but its like especially bad when something triggers my emotions and i just sit in silence with a heavy feeling in my heart and im just numb i cant cry even though i want to i just dont understand myself
hi there~ if youre having trouble figuring out why, you can start by asking yourself:
- How long youve been feeling this way
- Were there any changes or major events that happened in your life since then? Small events that make you upset count too because it could be an accumulation
- Is there any particular place(s) or people who triggers you/you realise you feel especially bad around?
I know it can feel so frustrating to feel upset yet unable to figure out the source of it; But acknowledging + being aware that you don’t know and wanting to figure it out is a first great step! Don’t beat yourself up for not understanding yourself because it’s counterproductive; You can’t hate yourself into loving yourself. Jiayou!! Sending all the love your way
Hi user1373
I am sorry to hear about the waves of sadness you are experiencing when triggered. It is deeply courageous of you to explore what is behind these sadness and to raise your self-awareness. Please do not feel alone as many of us do experience overwhelming sadness at certain times. This can be overcome over time with you taking small steps forward.
From my experience, speaking to a Counsellor may help. He/She can help you delve deeper into the persistent sadness and emotional triggers which may help uncover underlying emotional wounds or unresolved issues. When you shared the inability to cry, it could be attributed to feeling of numbness or suppressed emotions so do discuss and address this further with the Counsellor.
Do also consider:
1. Journaling: Write down your thoughts, emotions, and triggers.
2. Mindfulness: Practice self-compassion and presence.
3. Creative expression: Art, music, or writing to process emotions.
4. Seeking connection: Connect to loved ones who are trusted and share your experiences: you won’t feel alone. They may be able to offer you much needed comfort and unconditional love.
5. Do try out some emotional release techniques such as:
-Deep breathing exercises.
-Progressive muscle relaxation.
-Guided meditation.
Please remember that your emotions are 100% valid and healing will take time. You are not alone so please reach out for support. Take one small step at a time and keep going!
Hi @user1373,
It’s very brave of you to share openly about your struggles, and I would like to take this moment to acknowledge your courage. It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot, and it’s completely okay to feel this way.
Remember that you’re not alone, and it’s okay to seek support from friends, family, or a professional. It’s okay to not understand yourself fully right now, but with time and support, things can get better. Do reach out whenever you need a listening ear, and take care of yourself.
Hello user1373, thank you for sharing and I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing such negative emotions recently. Do you have a trusted friend or family member you could confide in when it comes to talking about the things that trigger your emotions? Sometimes we just need to cry our hearts out in order to feel better after bottling up our emotions, so please know that you are not alone. You are really brave for taking the step to try and understand yourself better and I hope things get better for you with time. Take care!
hey @user1373! thank you for sharing this with us and i’m sorry for what you’re going through. i know how frustrating it can get when you are feeling so many things yet you can’t put a finger on what they are and/or why they are there. if i may offer some advice, would it perhaps be helpful for you to keep a journal noting the things that you are triggered by? it can be a simple physical notebook or even just noting things on your phone! this might help you to visualise and understand your emotions better. also, this has been mentioned by someone else, but i would also like to echo the use of mindfulness! i have been studying it a bit and it has positive results for such difficult emotions.
please also know that it is okay to seek help from a professional if you need to. your emotions are very valid. they can guide you in figuring out the whats, whys, and hows of what you are feeling! and from there they can offer help to make you feel better.
you deserve to be happy, and please know that there is love and support for you out there