i feel really really really really really really lost, help me please

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i feel so lost, i dont know what to do

i feel so scared and alone. i thought i did everything okay this time but it still was not enough, it still led to me being in such a ■■■■ spot with so much of pain.

i dont know whether to let go or keep hope, they say theyll change but i cant keep hoping it hurts to stay i just feel so lost, everytime i think of letting go all the glimpses of them come in my head, i just miss the person i fell in love with, where is he?

if i had really felt that they were trying, id hold nothing against them

but.

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Dear @user732416

Thank you for reaching out. From your post I can sense how upset and alone you are currently feeling. It is understandable, relationship hurt especially when there are issues that cannot be resolved.

Is there anyone in your family or circle of friends you trust who can support you as you go through this challenging period?

If you are in school, do set up a consult with the school counsellor soon to talk through and process the hurt from this relationship issue.

You deserve to be treated well and with respect, always. Please hang in there, and continue seeking support when needed.

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Dear @user732416,

Thanks for reaching out to us.

I can hear how much pain you’re carrying right now. You’re feeling lost, scared, and alone, stuck in this difficult place where you’ve tried so hard, but it still doesn’t feel enough. The struggle between letting go and holding onto hope sounds exhausting, especially when you’re missing the person you fell in love with and wondering where they went. That conflict of wanting to see them try but not feeling like they really are must be tearing you apart inside.

I want you to know that support is available if you feel ready and comfortable reaching out. Resources like National Mindline and Community Mental Health Teams can provide someone to talk to who can help you work through these feelings and figure out what’s best for you.

@CaringBee has also pointed out a useful resource. School counsellors are a good point of contact for well-being support, if you are still in poly, JC or uni.

You don’t have to navigate this alone, and reaching out when you’re ready is a sign of strength, not weakness. I’ve included some resource links below that might be useful on your help-seeking journey. Take care of yourself, okay?

Resources:

Mindline’s First Stop for Mental Health webpage: https://www.mindline.sg/fsmh

Mindline’s Service Wayfinding Tool: https://www.mindline.sg/mental-health-service-providers/start