I am so stressed up and anxious..I feel totally relieved if I tell myself that I give up and not hold on to any expectations on anything or anyone. Is this ok..can I just give up on all expectations so that I can feel better..Thanks
Hey @Ghk , I get how you feel and its quiet tough, but is it okay for you to share what’s making you stressed up and anxious, but hey don’t give up on yourself. At times like this you should always hold on to yourself, needn’t have any high expectations or anything like that but yea, don’t give up either, do let us know if you need anything else 
@Ghk that sounds really heavy.. letting go of high expectations can be a healthy thing when it means you’re choosing to protect yourself but if it feels like giving up on everything completely, that might be a sign that something deeper is going on — and you don’t have to face that alone.
It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. And you don’t have to carry all that pressure by yourself. Do you have anyone to talk to about what you’re going through?
@Ghk i hear how overwhelmed and anxious you’re feeling, and i can totally understand the deep relief that comes from just letting go of expectations. sometimes, it feels like the only way to breathe again 
there’s nothing wrong with wanting to give yourself a break from all the pressure. letting go of expectations can actually be a kind and healthy thing to do, esp if those expectations are weighing you down and causing you distress. letting go in that way doesn’t mean you’re weak or giving up on yourself. in fact, it can be a form of self-care, a way of saying, “right now, i need rest, not more demands.” that’s valid and okay.
however, there’s a fine line between letting go of draining expectations and giving up on yourself entirely. even as you stop holding on to expectations of how things “should” be, i hope you hold onto this: you still matter, and you are worthy of so many things.
you are worthy of kindness, rest, and understanding, especially from yourself. you are worthy of patience and gentleness, as you find your way through this.
you’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to take things one small step at a time 
Understandable. Just try ur best but dont have expectations ig. Not sure if that good tho. For me, if something didnt work, i will just try again elsewhere so not to dwell on the failure
thanks for sharing this so honestly 
It makes sense that releasing expectations can feel like a relief - sometimes our hopes and pressure can weigh heavily on us. you’re not alone in feeling this way.
I have a suggestion that might make you feel a bit better: try thinking of it not as “giving up,” but as giving yourself permission to breathe, to pause, and to take care of yourself without constantly measuring things by outcomes or people’s behavior.
You absolutely deserve that peace. If it feels right for now, let go. And when you’re ready, you can choose what expectations, if any, feel kind and healthy to carry again.
You have the power to choose which expectations serve you and let go of the ones that don’t 
hey @Ghk
it sounds like you might be going through a stressful and rough period of time right now 
thank you for sharing this here, it must have taken some courage for you to talk about this, and i want you to know that you’re not alone 
maybe just to add on to what others have said here, i would say that it’s not necessarily about giving up, but perhaps being kinder to yourself. our lives seem really fast-paced at times and many of us can feel overwhelmed by a bunch of tasks and expectations. however, it is always our priority to take care of our mental well-being, and to give yourself the space and compassion you deserve if you feel like you need it!
take it step by step, take the time to breathe and rest, and know that you will get through these tough times. we’re rooting for you!
Hey @Ghk,
I hear that you are feeling really overwhelmed by stress and anxiety right now. It sounds like you’re trying to find a way to relieve these feelings, and giving up on expectations seems to provide some temporary relief for you. It’s completely understandable that, when faced with so much pressure, your mind would search for ways to escape from it. It’s okay to feel that way.
You’ve mentioned that telling yourself to give up on expectations makes you feel relieved, and it seems like this might be a way for you to reduce the emotional weight of stress and anxiety. Sometimes, when we’re under a lot of pressure, letting go of what we expect from others or ourselves can feel like a temporary solution. But I’m also hearing that you’re unsure if this is the right thing to do, which shows that you’re already thinking critically about this coping mechanism. Can you recall a time when you last felt the need to give up expectations to cope with stress, and how did that affect you in the long term?"
I want to make sure you feel heard in this moment. It’s important that you have space to sit with your feelings of stress and anxiety. Sometimes, the act of saying, ‘I want to give up,’ comes from feeling like you’ve reached your limit. It’s okay to feel like this—it doesn’t mean you’re failing or doing something wrong. It’s a sign that you’ve been carrying a heavy load. I’m here to hold space for all of these emotions without rushing through them.
What stands out to me is that you’re trying to manage your stress and seeking a way to feel better. Recognising that you’re experiencing these emotions is a huge strength. Often, people avoid acknowledging their stress because it’s uncomfortable, but you’re taking the time to reflect on it and ask yourself what is best for you. This self-awareness is a powerful tool in your journey toward healing.
While it’s natural to want to escape overwhelming emotions, I want to gently suggest that there may be ways to manage your stress without giving up expectations completely. It’s okay to adjust your expectations and give yourself permission to take a step back, but I encourage you to also explore what might help you face these emotions in a more sustainable way. Would you be open to exploring some small steps that can help you navigate this stress without feeling like you have to fully give up on what matters to you?
I understand that it feels like there’s a lot of pressure right now, and the thought of letting go seems like the only way to feel relief. But I want to reassure you that this feeling is temporary, and with time, you’ll find ways to manage stress and anxiety that don’t require giving up completely. It might take some time to figure out what works best for you, and that’s okay. You’re already on the right path by acknowledging how you’re feeling and being open to finding solutions. Take care, and looking forward to hearing from you again.