it’s been awhile since i wrote here. the last time i wrote was about how i felt like my feelings were being belittled and dismissed by my partner on top of how much i was struggling mentally. we had a overcome that and had a good week/month. fast forward today, we had a disagreement/argument. lately i’ve been feeling like i tolerated too much. i said what i wanted to say and blocked him. i want to choose myself this time. but i know it’ll be hard. i know once im ready to unblock and finish it nicely i would melt and go weak. i still do need closure and for the peace of my mind, end things amicably. maybe i shouldn’t maybe i should. idk tbvh
Hi @user6260,
It takes strength to recognize when you’re reaching your limits, especially when it comes to relationships. You’ve endured a lot, and it’s understandable that you want to prioritize yourself this time. The cycle of feeling dismissed and struggling mentally can be exhausting, and it makes sense that after overcoming that rough patch, you had hoped for a more stable, understanding dynamic. But sometimes, disagreements have a way of reminding us what we’ve been tolerating for too long. Your choice to step back and block him wasn’t just about the argument—it was about valuing your own feelings, and that’s valid.
At the same time, it’s natural to feel torn about the next steps. Closure can be important for peace of mind, and wanting to end things amicably doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you care, even when choosing yourself. But choosing yourself doesn’t mean you have to endure unnecessary pain. If you do decide to revisit the conversation, make sure it’s on your terms, in a way that preserves your well-being. You’re allowed to take the time you need before deciding how to move forward, and it’s okay to feel uncertain in the process.
No matter what you choose, remember that your feelings matter. You don’t have to justify them or shrink them down for someone else’s comfort. You’ve already shown resilience by standing up for yourself, and that strength will carry you through whatever comes next. Give yourself grace as you navigate this, because healing—whether it involves closure or not—will come in its own time. You deserve peace, whether it’s found in clarity or simply in letting go.
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
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