I just went into a physical fight with my classmate yesterday just because of her consulting. (I am absolutely uncomfortable when it comes to consultation.) I don’t wish to share how the fight started.
Ill just share about my feelings and perspective towards the fight. I never get involved myself into a fight. In fact, I avoid getting in trouble at all times. The fight left me a traumatic impact towards me deeply. Since im in a religious school, we wore scarves. She pulled my scarf first so as myself. She even used manipulative phrases like “you’re playing as the victim” and forced me to apologise. I apologised WAY before the fight. I am the type of person who doesn’t apologise by force, and I avoid being a people pleaser. Nevertheless, I went into counselling to have a private talk with the teahcers. I felt relieved with them as I talked about my issues. I really hope the case is solved. It was REALLY embarrassing when we are Pre University students yet having these kind of fights, showing an unpleasant example towards the juniors.
I really don’t want to go to school because of her, yet I am looking forward to learning new knowledge and discussing interesting topics. Luckily, I am on MC today and tomorrow as my right ankle from both sides are terribly swollen. It was terrible which caused to go to the hospital to put on a cast and use clutches. However, the rest day gave me sometime to calm myself down after the fearful incident.
Well, my mom requested my form teacher to assign someone to help me out once I return to school. Her mind was thinking of the girl whom I fought with. I really didn’t want to. Whenever, I see her these days, I really isolate myself away from her. I really don’t want to interact with her at all, not even a friendly conversation.
I need yall opinions. How do I make a stand that I dont want her to be part of this? (PS: my mom is quite insistent so I need ideas to make her agree with my feelings and thoughts)
Just an additional information which is kinda related to the incident, I shared this with my friends who are not in the same school as me, and my deekmates. They were quite shocked to hear this news. At least I have supporters. Ill let the girl spread rumours about me. It doesnt make any change since the incident happened. Its over. She can’t change me. Plus, exams are next week meaning that I have lesser contact with her.
hey, so sorry to hear that u got into a physical fight and it’s left an impact on u! it’s really admirable how u did apologise first, and sought out counselling to help u feel better – that’s really mature from you.
i’m guessing your mom might not understand the full extent of the situation, so maybe u can suggest a different friend? if she really wants you to have someone to support you (especially because it’s exams season) u can give her a different option.
if she’s still insistent you can try explaining the situation to her, which might be a bit difficult but maybe you can tell her about how being with her will stress you out more. ultimately she probably wants what’s best for you, and you can be clear why this option isn’t it.
stay strong, and i hope you’re able to resolve the situation with the classmate soon!
Hi there! Thank you for sharing such an impactful incident to you. I suppose it was a difficult situation to navigate and the fact that you’re sharing it and looking for alternative opinions shows that you’re really strong
Have you tried communicating with your mum and letting her know what happened between you and the classmate that you got into a fight with? If you have not, I agree with cherry754, perhaps your mum does not understand what you are going through and how you feel towards that classmate. Would you try having a heart to heart talk session with her?
Hi! My mom listened to the story WAY before she wanted her to be the accompanying partner. We cried together. However, my mom refuses to hear me out so I told my dad instead. He convinced my mom to assign my deskmate instead. Im glad that she listened. I simply hope that I avoid interacting with her for a moment in order to cool down the tension between uss.
I’m really glad your dad was able to support you here, so you know you have someone “in your corner” so to speak. Your mom might just want you to be able to move foward from the situation and have it be resolved, I know my mom’s done the same thing before with me. It’s really good that you know your own boundaries, and of what you need right now so keep to those! Hopefully it’ll sort itself out with time, but if your mom still disagrees with you you could get your dad to mediate for you next time!
Good job on standing your ground, taking care of yourself, and resolving the situation to the best of your ability! You should be proud of yourself for how you handled everything make sure to take some time to feel through your emotions too, we’ll be here for you!
make sure to take some time to feel through your emotions too, we’ll be here for you!