My father says vulgar to me and scolds me and I have a CCA conductor who also scolds me I have been bullied before and now the stress of trying to meet my parent’s grade’s expectations are also killing me. Nearly everything I say/do at home is wrong and my father just has so many unreasonable rules and I am only 13. Is it that I am overthinking and I have problems managing my emotions or is it my father’s fault?
Dear @LonelyShadow06
Thank you for reaching out here. What you described sounds truly tough, and I’m glad you took this step of writing in to get support.
I believe that being 13 and feeling like everything you do is wrong, getting scolded a lot, and having been bullied before is a lot for one person to carry. It is only human to feel stressed and confused.
Please know that you are not “too sensitive” or overthinking, because any one of us in your situation would be hurting, too.
Also remember that it’s not your fault that your dad uses vulgar words or has harsh rules.
You might be still learning to manage your emotions (rest assured most other 13 year old are in the same boat) but that doesn’t excuse adults being unkind.
I think at this moment,what matters most is getting you some support.
May I suggest you talk to your school counsellor as soon as you can.
You could say something like: “Things at home feel very stressful. I get scolded a lot and I’m under a lot of pressure, and it’s really affecting me. I need someone to talk to.”
You could also approach a teacher you trust or a close relative (like an older cousin, aunt, or sibling). Another option is to call the national mindline at 1771 to speak to a counsellor confidentially. The hotline operates 24/7 and manned by competent counsellors.
You fully deserve a safe place to talk and get help with all this. Please ask for help soon. You are not alone so please tap on the resources available to address the issues faced.
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I don’t like my counsellor I prefer national mindline 1771 I’ve been using it for awhile on Whatsapp and thx for replying 
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Hey @LonelyShadow06,
May I know if you would be able to share with us if you have any concerns about the counsellor who is currently assigned to your case?
I’m scared she will tell my parents like my primary school counsellors and teachers
Hey @LonelyShadow06,
This is a common concern, which is addressed by the counsellor’s professional commitment to confidentiality.
Confidentiality means that they keep what students share private (i.e. information is not shared in public) to build trust.
However, this confidentiality has strict limits, especially since students are minors. Counsellors may be required to break confidentiality and inform parents or school leaders in specific situations (e.g. if the information shared suggests a serious risk of harm to the student themselves or harm to others).
In cases such as yours, it’s likely that the counsellor will aim to involve parents for support only with the student’s consent, ensuring that the primary goal remains the student’s safety and well-being.
I hope this answers your question!
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I told them to not tell my parents but they still did and my counsellor isn’t rlly that helpful she told me she also don’t know what to do I prefer texting national mindline
Hey @LonelyShadow06,
Thank you for sharing this with us. It’s completely understandable that not every Counsellor’s working style will feel like the right fit, and sometimes it may simply be a matter of personality differences rather than anything that crosses ethical boundaries. Your openness helps us better understand your experience, and we truly value the trust you’ve placed in sharing this.
If you are open to exploring other forms of mental health support, may I suggest the following resources:
Youth Integrated Team (YIT): Provides mental health assessments and supports youths (aged 12 to 25) in understanding and identifying their care needs. This service is provided free-of-charge.
Youth Community Outreach Team: Provides emotional support to youths (aged 12 to 25) in psychological distress, as an in-person First Stop for Mental Health. This service is provided free-of-charge.
These service providers can be found on mindline’s service wayfinder, which will point you to suitable resources based on your needs, age, and area of residence: mindline.sg | Free Mental Health Resources & Mindfulness Tools in Singapore
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