Hi ,
Is there any reasonable price $50 per session for my daughter. She is turning 15 this year but recently she keep telling me that she hope that she can die . Though she didn’t said it in a serious way or does she has any urge to do silly things but she is having persistent headache that affect her daily life even to school . She just lose interest in all things except for everyday she locking herself in her room lying in the bed watching her Thai idol … is worrying and she does not have a good relationship with her father . They are always bickering at each other and her father always uses unpleasant words at times vulgarity . She told me that she lose motivation in everything ever since last year incident where she and her dad had a huge fight. Is hard 
Hello @Jojo.88,
Thank you for sharing your daughter’s struggles with us. I can feel the weight of your concerns, and it’s clear you care deeply about her. And especially since her mental and emotional state seems to have shifted since that big argument with her father.
From what you have described about she isolating herself in her room, losing interest in things she once enjoyed, and experiencing persistent headaches are clear signs that she’s in emotional distress. When someone is feeling emotionally numb or disconnected, it can be hard to motivate themselves or find joy in activities, even things they loved before. I’m sure this is painful for you to witness, and perhaps in some ways, you are unsure about how to best help her.
Family conflicts like can contribute to emotional overwhelm, especially for someone her age. It sounds like she’s also internalizing a lot of this tension, which may be adding to her feelings of hopelessness or disconnection. Sometimes, it’s not just the external events but also the internalization of those experiences that make it hard for someone to see a way out of their pain.
Nonetheless, you’re doing an amazing job by seeking support for her, and reaching out to therapists is a great first step. I also want to encourage you to take care of yourself during this process. It can be exhausting and draining to care for someone who is struggling with emotional pain, especially when it feels like they’re retreating further away. It’s okay to acknowledge how hard this is for you too, and to take small moments for yourself when you can.
As for your daughter, she may need help unpacking the feelings tied to the conflict with her father. It might help her to have someone who can guide her through this emotional pain and help her express her feelings in a safe space. Building a relationship of trust and understanding with her will take time, but it’s important to show her that you’re there for her, no matter what she’s going through.
Just a thought, did you get a chance to reach out to your daughter’s school counsellors? As this can help you to, at least, relief your stress on financial matters.
We are here with you through this, and we’ll support you both in finding a way forward. How would it feel for you to start talking to her about her feelings? Or perhaps, let her know that you’re willing to help her find professional support?
Hi , thank you for replying.
Your reply assist me a lot to make me have a better understanding on what’s going on with her. I did thought of engaging the school counsellor for her however she is a very introvert and sensitive person which she is afraid of sharing to others and others to know about it. She often found comfort in her Thai idol and as much as possible we do bring her to some fan meet etc to let her sought some happiness. Though we reckon that this is really an unhealthy practice but is really some thing that we do to make her feel she is still loved or we care about her still . She is the eldest of our 3 kids
Just my 2 cents. I once sought the help of school counsellor for my Sec 1 girl when she was depressed over something that happened in school. After a year, I could see changes in her mental health. Like you, I can’t afford expensive therapist. The school counselor is a valuable resource – it does sound like she needs someone to help her unpack her feelings. Bear in mind also that while her mind is developing, it has not fully developed yet. Give her time to develop, find herself but assist her by connecting with the right resources and give her private space as well.
Hi @Jojo.88 , I understand that might be some concerns and negative connotations about students seeing a school counsellor. I wonder if she would consider seeking help in the community (e.g., near your home) instead? These service providers are funded by MOH (e.g., ether free or provides subsidised care).
If you and your girl is open, you can use this service recommender mindline.sg | Free Mental Health Resources & Mindfulness Tools in Singapore , and search on CREST services. This programme is a first touch point for community mental health services, let the staff know what issues is she facing, and they will make an assessment on whether they can support your girl or whether a higher level of care is required.
Thanks so much for the info. I will check it out