When i was young, i dated one i didnt like enough, 2nd one i dated someone who wasnt mine, and on and off i had dates, and they only turn out one night stands, and im always alone after that. No one actually like me enough to date me for real. Ive come to terms with that and now almost 15 years later im still by myself, i dont remember what is it like to have someone. Im not close to my family and not much friends. Sometimes im sad. I saw my colleague’s whatssap profile name “life is beautiful” how is life beautiful. Life is so hard.
Hi @Justmetyy
Thank you for reaching out, I’m glad you did.
It sounds like you’ve been through a tough time, and it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling sad and isolated. It’s like you’re carrying a heavy burden, and it’s hard to see the beauty in life when things feel so difficult.
Firstly, please know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people struggle with feelings of loneliness, disconnection, and sadness. It’s okay to acknowledge these emotions, and it takes a lot of courage to share them.
It’s interesting that you mention your colleague’s WhatsApp profile name, “Life is beautiful.” Sometimes, it can feel like others have it easier or that they’re more fulfilled. I feel the same way at times. But over time, I have observed that everyone has their own struggles, and social media often only shows us the highlight reels.
Life can be hard, and it’s okay to acknowledge that. But it’s also important to remember that beauty and hardship can coexist. Even in the midst of challenges, there can be moments of beauty, kindness, and connection.
Since you’ve come to terms with your past experiences, maybe it’s time to focus on the present and future. What are some things that bring you comfort, joy, or a sense of purpose? Are there any hobbies, activities, or passions that you’ve been wanting to explore?
Rebuilding connections and finding meaning can take time, but it’s possible. You might consider reaching out to a therapist or counsellor who can support you in working through your feelings and developing strategies for building connections.
Remember, you deserve to experience beauty and joy in your life, even if it looks different from what others have. Keep in mind that small moments of connection, kindness, and compassion can add up and bring a sense of fulfillment.
Lastly, I want to acknowledge your strength and resilience. You’ve been carrying this burden for a long time, and it’s remarkable that you’re still standing. Keep going, even when it feels hard. You are worthy of love, care, and connection♥️.
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Hi @Justmetyy,
It’s completely understandable to feel down when things haven’t turned out the way you hoped in terms of relationships and companionship. The journey you’ve had sounds very challenging, and it makes sense that you would feel sad and alone at times.
Life can indeed be hard, and it’s okay to acknowledge that. It’s also okay to feel that other people’s perspectives or experiences, like your colleague’s “life is beautiful” sentiment, don’t align with your own. Everyone’s journey is unique to honor your own feelings and experiences.
Finding beauty in life can be difficult, especially when we are feeling low. Sometimes it’s about the small things: the warmth of the sun on your face, a quiet moment of peace, a kind gesture from a stranger. It’s not always about the grand moments but those tiny sparks that can slowly build up to something brighter.
Connecting with others who understand and empathize with your experiences can also be incredibly helpful. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with someone who listens without judgment can make a world of difference.
Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to take care of yourself and seek out moments, however small, that bring you comfort and peace. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here to listen.