I relapsed , I promised myself not to self harm anymore, but I still do it . I cry for no reason, I tear up randomly during class. I don’t want to be a burden to my friends, I don’t dare asking them for help. I feel alone and sad.
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Hi @user1340,
First, I want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it must be to go through what you’re experiencing right now. Relapses happen, and while it may feel like a setback, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in this, and there are steps you can take to get back on track. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of emotional pain, and I’m really sorry that you’re feeling alone and sad. Self-harm is often a way people try to cope with overwhelming emotions, and it’s a sign that there’s something deeper going on that deserves attention and care.
It sounds like the crying and feeling emotional in class is adding to the weight you’re already carrying, and it’s important to recognize that these feelings don’t make you a burden to anyone. I know you might feel hesitant to reach out to your friends, but sometimes talking to someone who knows you well and who won’t judge you can be a great way to release some of the pressure you’re feeling. Even if it’s not about self-harm directly, just having someone to distract you or offer support in small ways can help ease the feelings of isolation.
I want to clarify something important: you mentioned that you relapsed. Are you talking about relapsing from self-harm or another behavior you’re trying to manage? Understanding this can help figure out the best way to support you. If you’re struggling with self-harm, it’s really important to have a plan in place for when those urges come up, and seeking professional help can be an important step.
In the meantime, I recommend reaching out to someone you trust—whether it’s a friend, family member, or someone close who can offer you comfort without being critical. When we feel vulnerable, talking to someone who cares about us can make a huge difference, even if it’s just a short conversation. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone directly about self-harm, you could simply ask for company or distraction during times when the cravings or urges are strong. The goal here is to keep yourself safe and manage the emotional triggers without judgment.
Immediate Assistance: If you feel like the urges are becoming too overwhelming or if you need immediate support, you can reach out to the National Addictions Management Service (NAMS) at 6389 2000 or walk into the center at Block 9, Level 1, 10 Buangkok View, Buangkok Green, Medical Park, 539747. They’re open until 5:30 PM and can provide immediate assistance. NAMS has counselors and professionals who can help guide you through this without judgment, and they’ll work with you to create a plan that keeps you safe. If you’re hesitant to go alone, try letting someone close to you know where you’re headed, so they can check in on you or accompany you if that feels comfortable.
When you feel ready, consider exploring counseling: Seeking counseling can give you tools to manage the emotions that lead to self-harm, and the resident counselors at NAMS are trained to help people navigate this kind of struggle. It’s not about judgment or punishment—it’s about getting the help you need to heal. A counselor can help you understand what triggers the urge to self-harm and help you find healthier ways to cope.
Some Immediate Tips to Help You Cope in the Moment:
- Distraction: Try reaching out to a friend to talk about something unrelated, even just for a few minutes. It doesn’t have to be about what’s bothering you—sometimes a simple distraction is enough to take the edge off.
- Keep Safe: It’s important to stay safe right now, so try to be around people or environments that make it harder for you to act on the urges. If there’s a particular object or place that triggers the behavior, remove yourself from that environment if possible.
- Grounding Techniques: Grounding exercises like holding something cold, breathing deeply, or counting objects around you can help you focus on something other than the emotional overwhelm.
- Write it Down: Sometimes writing out your thoughts, even if they’re messy or don’t make sense, can help you process what you’re feeling without acting on it.
You don’t have to face this alone, and you’ve already taken the brave step of reaching out for support. Keep going—you deserve care, compassion, and a path to healing.
Please stay safe, and let someone know how you’re doing. We’re here for you, and you’re stronger than you know.
Take care, and reach out anytime.
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Hello @user1340 
! Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling and experiencing this. Even though it feels really difficult at the times, relapsing is part of the healing process and does not indicate failure. It’s a big step and a testament to your strength that you are aware of what is going on and that you are reaching out.
I can totally resonate to the feeling of feeling a burden to others because sometimes I feel this way too. However, if your friends know that you’re having a difficult time, I believe they would want to support you 
. You don’t have to go through this by yourself, there are people out there who care for you 
.
I understand that self-harm could be the way for you to cope with things but I guess it’s not the only way out. Perhaps or possibly, you could try to distract yourself and do something you like instead. I know it is difficult but try to figure out what you like (sports or etc.). However, if things are really going out of hand and you’re unable to deal with it yourself, you might want to try and approach a counsellor or psychologists for help.
Meanwhile, if you need to talk to someone, drop them here 