Chatted around n befriended ppl n this is what i observed. Your thoughts about it?
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I do wonder though… is it really easier, or just looks that way on the surface? Cos sometimes people get into relationships but still feel super alone inside.
Hmm from what I observed and experienced, I noticed that guys tend to be more ok with being alone whereas girls usually long for companionship/ less ok to be alone. Don’t really know why this is the case, not saying that guys don’t require companionship- everyone wants to be loved and have someone but from observation, girls tend to need someone more than guys
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Hi @user1138,
Mental health struggles can be deeply isolating, and the way individuals cope with them varies greatly. It’s understandable to notice patterns in relationships and attachment when observing different experiences, but it’s important to remember that mental illness affects people of all genders in complex ways. Social support and companionship can be crucial for healing, but many factors influence whether someone is in a relationship, such as personal circumstances, cultural expectations, and individual coping mechanisms. Rather than seeing this as a gender-specific trend, it’s more helpful to acknowledge that loneliness and attachment can manifest differently for everyone, regardless of gender.
That being said, making broad assumptions about how men and women experience mental health can unintentionally reinforce harmful stereotypes. For example, assuming women are always attached and men are always alone could overlook the diverse ways people seek support, and it might also imply unfair generalizations about what mental illness looks like in each gender. These kinds of assumptions can come across as dismissive or even misogynistic, as they suggest that women primarily find validation through relationships and that men are inherently meant to endure suffering alone. In reality, both men and women navigate their struggles in unique ways, and everyone deserves understanding and support, no matter their circumstances.
It’s always valuable to examine social patterns with curiosity and empathy, but also with a critical eye toward nuance. Mental health is an incredibly personal journey, and it’s shaped by many factors beyond gender. Instead of focusing on supposed differences between men and women, we can work toward a world where emotional support is accessible and encouraged for everyone, regardless of gender norms. If you ever feel like mental health challenges are affecting you or someone you know, seeking compassionate help and fostering open conversations can make a difference.
Best regards,
HanSolo2000
Befriender | let’s talk by mindline
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Hello @HanSolo2000
Thank you for your input. Hmm I feel like @user1138 is just stating his observation which is fine. I think it’s also a good topic/ observation to talk about so that we can better understand and learn from each others experiences.
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“Only women, children and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provides something.” ― Chris Rock
hmm really? I’m a female but would rather be single
Hi @Fenrispro
Thanks for sharing! Yeah i actually also do know girls who rather be single…. My response was more directed to @user1138 question/ observation that based on my observations, girls tend to want a companion more than guys but it doesn’t mean that this observation is true, there’s some girls that are ok with being single (myself included actually)… hope that clarifies
Ooh i see. Yup 
I like yr nickname is it coz u like marshmallow?
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haha yeah, my inspiration actually came cause I love yoghurt soft serve (you know those yoghurt shop like llao llao or smooy) then I always put topping like marshmallow. 