I really need someone to talk to. I’m desperate. Even my own best friend is starting to judge me.
I trust her a lot. We had a big fight yesterday, I told her I have ADHD. Then today she messaged me and said “hey, you have ADHD right” and i said “yeah i think I do” and she said “wdym you do?? You can’t self diagnose…” and starts to judge me. I never said I had ADHD. Because yesterday, she called be autistic for creating my own word, I didn’t create my own word? It’s just a fake slang I use for fun. She said it’s offensive and I self diagnosed.
I really don’t understand, why is she starting to judge me and call me autistic? I’m not autistic. Has she even seen an autistic person? I don’t understand. I’m starting to feel like I wanna distance myself from her. I’m not trying to judge her too but, she’s fat, and embarrassing. And shes trying to recommend me to some embarrassing stuff too. I hate it. Everytime I see two girls being the two perfect pretty best friends I look at myself and sigh.
I want someone to talk to. Like the one so can trust and feel safe. Someone who doesn’t judge me or hurt me. But I’m still wondering. Whos in the wrong? I hate myself.
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time with your friend, and it’s understandable to feel hurt and confused when someone you trust judges you.
It’s important to have people in your life who support you and accept you for who you are, especially when you’re dealing with something like ADHD. It’s frustrating when others don’t understand what you’re going through or make assumptions about you. Your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to want to distance yourself from negativity. If your friend isn’t being supportive, it might be helpful to reflect on what you want from that relationship.
Remember, you deserve to be around people who lift you up and make you feel safe. It’s okay to seek out those connections, even if it feels challenging right now. It may be helpful to consider talking to someone else you trust or even seeking communities where you feel accepted. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to prioritise your well-being.
Firstly, thank you for being brave to open up about your situation. I can tell that you are feeling really hurt and confused currently and it’s understandable given what happened. It seems like you are caught in a tough spot where someone you trust deeply isn’t showing you the understanding you need.
From what you have shared, it seems like your friend may not fully understand how her words are affecting you. At times, people respond from their own perspectives or biases without thinking about how it feels for the other person. It could be a lack of emotional awareness on her part. She might not realise how invalidating it feels to be judged or labelled like that.
On the other hand, the comparisons you are making like “perfect pretty best friends” or judging your friend’s appearance could be coming from a place of insecurity or frustration. It is completely normal when you are feeling this vulnerable. But please try to allow yourself some grace. You are human and you are allowed to feel hurt. Instead of focusing on what others might have, remind yourself of what you offer. You deserve relationships where you feel supported and seen.
That being said, it may help to have an honest and respectful conversation with her. By addressing it respectfully, it focuses on your feelings without attacking her, which might make her more open to listening.
Lastly, please remember that friendships do evolve. If she continues to dismiss your feelings, it is okay to take a step back and draw your boundaries. Friendships are built on respect, not judgement.
