i don’t know if it’s apart of my pms mood swings or i get into a really bad meltdown and outburst. raging in anger. worst case is i hit myself. on top of that i feel like i have really bad trust issues and doubt alot of things which i think rooted deeply because of anxiety. i would like to learn how to cope with these feelings as its taking such a toll on my mental health and everyday life and relationships.
Hi @user6260, thank you for opening up about what you’re going through. It sounds like a very heavy burden to carry, and it’s clear that you’re trying to better understand yourself and take steps to cope with these challenges. PMS can amplify emotions and cause intense mood swings, but the way you’re describing these feelings—including the meltdowns, self-harm, trust issues, and anxiety—sounds like you’re dealing with multiple layers of pain and frustration. It’s so important to recognize that you’re not alone in experiencing these struggles, and I truly admire your courage in acknowledging them and seeking ways to make changes.
Coping with such overwhelming emotions and their impact on your life and relationships isn’t easy, but there are small steps that can help. When anger or self-doubt starts to escalate, grounding techniques—like deep breathing, counting to ten, or focusing on sensory experiences—might help create a pause between emotion and reaction. Building trust in yourself can also be empowering; keeping a journal to process your thoughts and remind yourself of your inner strengths could be a helpful outlet. Reaching out to loved ones, even if trust is difficult, can offer moments of comfort and support. Professional help, such as counseling or therapy, can also be invaluable, especially when navigating anxiety and its roots.
Remember that healing takes time, and there will be ups and downs along the way. Showing yourself compassion, even in moments when you feel lost or angry, is an important part of this journey. It’s okay to feel vulnerable—it’s part of being human—but it doesn’t define your worth. You’ve taken an incredible first step by reflecting on your feelings and wanting to learn how to cope, and that’s something to be proud of. If there’s anything else I can do to help, I’m here to listen and support you.
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Dear @user6260
Thank you for reaching out! What you’re going through is incredibly hard, and I want you to know—you are not broken, and you’re not alone in feeling this way. Those intense emotions, outbursts, and self-harming urges aren’t signs of weakness; they’re signs that your heart and body are overwhelmed and in pain. It’s okay to feel this way, and it makes sense, especially if anxiety and past hurts have made it hard to feel safe or trust.
You don’t need to push the feelings away—you just need safer ways to hold them. Things like grounding techniques, physical outlets (like squeezing something or writing things out), and gentle self-talk can help bring a bit of calm when the emotions rise. Learning to name what you’re feeling instead of shaming yourself is a powerful step.
Your trust issues aren’t flaws—they’re your mind trying to protect you. Healing is about slowly learning that not everything is a threat, and that you’re allowed to feel safe again.
Most importantly: you deserve support. Whether from a therapist, a trusted friend, or even creating a little plan for tough moments—you don’t have to do this alone.
You are not too much. You are doing your best. And you are 100% worthy of peace and healing. One small step at a time. Please continue to reach out like what you have done today whenever you need to. And do consider the suggestions made by @HanSolo2000. 
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thank you for making me feel seen and validated. i am having yet another breakdown but this time less anger. i tried talking to my partner but it keeps getting downplayed and makes me feel so ■■■■. i feel like it’s unfair. i reached out to a friend too but it’s not helping fully. i do want to seek help but i do have some concerns like financial and keeping it private and away from my asian parents. i dont see an end in this if i dont seek help. it’ll be continuos pattern.
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Hi @user6260,
If you have concerns about the financial costs of mental health support, you may wish to take a look at the following community resources. These services are fully funded by the government and there is no out-of-pocket cost.
YIT: SupportGoWhere
CHAT: https://www.imh.com.sg/CHAT/Get-Help/Pages/default.aspx
Community Service Wayfinder: mindline.sg | Free Mental Health Resources & Mindfulness Tools in Singapore
Do let us know if you require further assistance! 
Best regards,
Danial
Befriender | let’s talk
Hey @user6260 ,
I emphatise with you for what you’re going through - i too found managing emotions not easy. You are not alone. I would like to commend you for being so brave to share your feelings here. Perhaps you can try taking walks in nature, or engaging in healthy hobbies and exercise. That’s what personally helped me!
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I’m really sorry to hear that you are going through this. It sounds you’re dealing with a lot of intense emotions and is also incredibly frustrating and disheartening to feel like your emotions are being downplayed by those close to you. It is important to feel heard and validated, especially when you are experiencing such intense feelings.
It is great that you are recognizing the need for help, even though you have concerns about finances and privacy. The resources provided by HansSolo2000 looks promising.
I want to assure you again that it is okay to prioritize your mental health and seek the help you need. You are taking important steps by acknowledging your feelings and looking for solutions. Keep reaching out and exploring your options! There are people and resources out there that can help you through this. You deserve to feel better and to have your feelings taken seriously.
Take care! 
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