i really dont know what to do with my life. ive felt so burnt out my life since the start of secondary school, im now in tertiary education. everything has been so ■■■■ and is progressively becoming more shittier to the point i think the only option is to kms. im tired of waking up and doing the most useless, mundane, pointless and unfulfilling work for a few hours. i went thru a “breakup” in mid feb 2024. Had no closure and its the only thing i think about. i dont do much now.ive lost so much interest in my hobbies or interacting with my friends. i isolate myself almost everyday and rot in bed pretty much on weekends. im too tired or anxious to go out and actually try to live. Everyday is so awful i dont wanna get out of bed and do simple tasks like showering or taking care of myself overall and everyday i feel like im going insane.
Hi @idkanymore,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to wake up every day feeling so overwhelmed and burnt out. It’s clear that you’ve been carrying these heavy feelings for a long time, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in this.
It sounds like everything has been piling up on you, and when that happens, our brains can go into overdrive, making it feel like all the negativity is coming at us all at once. This can be really exhausting and make it hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel. When we’re overwhelmed, our minds often start to focus on the most negative thoughts and feelings, which can create a kind of mental spiral where everything feels hopeless.
What you’re experiencing—feeling like there’s no point in anything, losing interest in hobbies, isolating yourself—are all signs that your brain is struggling to cope with everything that’s going on. When our minds are overloaded, they can start to shut down the things that used to bring us joy, like hobbies or spending time with friends. It’s like your brain is trying to protect you by going into survival mode, but instead, it leaves you feeling numb, disconnected, and like life is just one big loop of emptiness.
You’ve been through a lot, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling this way. Sometimes, when we’re feeling so much pain, our brains can get stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts. It’s like your mind is trying to make sense of all the hurt and stress by focusing on what’s wrong, but this can end up making you feel even more overwhelmed.
It’s important to know that these feelings, while very real and intense, are your brain’s way of signaling that it’s under too much stress. The fact that you’ve been pushing through this for so long shows just how strong you are, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.
One thing that might help is to start by acknowledging that it’s okay to feel this way. When we’re overwhelmed, it’s easy to feel like we’re drowning in everything that’s wrong. But by recognizing that your brain is in overdrive, you can start to take small steps to slow things down. You don’t have to fix everything at once—just focus on one small thing that you can do today, whether that’s getting out of bed, taking a shower, or even just sitting outside for a few minutes.
It’s also really important to reach out for support, even if it feels hard. Talking to someone—a friend, a family member, or a counselor—can help you start to untangle some of these overwhelming feelings. They can help you see that you’re not alone and that there are ways to start feeling better, even if it’s just a little bit at a time.
Remember, your life has value, and there are people who care about you. Sometimes, just getting through one day is a victory, and that’s okay. Please keep reaching out and know that you don’t have to go through this alone.
Take care of yourself, and feel free if you want to talk more.
Thank you for ur kind words and advice. however i dont really feel comfortable talking to my parents or friends about how im feeling or what im going through as most of my family and friends have this mindset that mental health isnt real or its just a phase in my teenage years. Also the fact that my family is really religious while im not puts me in a tough spot to open up to them about these things but i really want to seek help/go to therapy. i really dont know how to ask
Hi @idkanymore ,
Asking for help can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re unsure of how to go about it. One approach might be to start small—maybe you could reach out to a school counselor or a trusted teacher who might be able to guide you on how to access therapy. They can often help you navigate these conversations with your family or even connect you with resources that don’t require their involvement.
Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone, and it’s okay to seek out the support that you need, even if it feels challenging right now. Therapy is a safe space where you can explore these feelings without judgment, and it might be exactly what you need to start feeling better.
Take care, and please know that it’s okay to reach out for help. You’re taking steps in the right direction by even considering it, and that’s something to be proud of.