I’m lonely all day everyday at school and i have absolutely positively no friends. the “friends” i do have im pretty sure they hate me because they dont talk to me that mucha nd other stuff. i sit alone in all my classes and cry all day. i feel so trapped because theres jothing i can do. i also cant pursue the hobby that i want to and its making me feel sad and even more trapped.
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i really feel you and you are stronger than you think.
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Hi @ji9star,
It sounds like your days in school feel very long and repetitive, especially when you are sitting alone most of the time. I also notice how strongly you are describing it - “no friends” and “they hate me.” When things feel this way for a while, the mind can start grouping everything to one side, like it is either all good or all bad. That does not mean your feelings are wrong, but it could mean something has happened that made it feel this extreme.
I am wondering if there was a point where this started to change for you. Did something happen that made you begin to feel more alone in school?
You mentioned that the “friends” you have do not talk to you much. Has this been happening for a while?
I also noticed you shared that there is a hobby you want to pursue. That is important. It tells me there is still something you are interested in and something that matters to you.
What is that hobby? What do you enjoy about it?
Hobbies can sometimes give you a space where you feel more like yourself, even if other parts of your day are difficult. And if it continues to feel heavy, it would be worth speaking to a trusted adult in school or reaching out to someone who can support you through this? Let us know?
i got into a fight with my best friend, she felt like my only best friend ever cuz i never had any friends until like last year and this is my first best friend i felt like chosen and seen by. and then she got mad at me for expressing that i was hurt by her ignoring me and then she is childish and cant apologize for anything, even when i apologized for making her mad, so i stopped talking to her. and as a result, one of the classes we share 6th period, i moved to a table in the corner by myself, because i tried to sit with another friend and she chased me away and told me to go away. this is why i feel even more lonely than usual. I keep telling myself that she (exbsf) will ruin her own life because she is so mean, but it feels like nobody else can see that and even tho i’m nice and shes mean i’m left in the dust by everyone and everyone loves her more. i see on my other friends’ profile that they have her like tagged in the bio as a best friend, and then they made this post where they said “i hope we’re best friends forever” and tagged all these people and didn’t tag me. i feel like its so unfair that she has more friends than me and i am so lonely. i am jealous of everyone who has friends that choose them and actually like them and want to be around them.
My friends dont talk to me much, idk. i feel like its been happening for a while, but i really noticed it and it magnified recently because the only social interaction i have is at lunch and it seems like they dont want me there. they all hang out without me and have these group chats without me and if i don’t text them first they really wont talk to me and i feel so disregarded and unwanted. they all have these gossips and secrets that they talk about so loudly and they never tell me even if i ask they tell me no. especially, because they yell at me about seating arrangements at lunch (this makes me anxious to go to lunch anymore, so i eat in my english teachers room). If i do go to lunch, no one talks to me.
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about the hobby. its dance. i really wish i could do dance but ive been asking my mom for ballet classes forever now, and she always finds a way to dodge it and its been going on for months i feel so trapped in life. also i dont take it as a class in school and i cant change my schedule. also, i tried out for the dance team for next year and totally blew it and when i say blew i mean blew. everyone else who tried out made the team except for me. so im really bad. and it feels really bad because everyone else has things to be good at, and a hobby they enjoy but i have nothing in life that i enjoy…
I get you, it’s really hard dealing with this 
especially with seemingly no one to support you in school. But things will get easier from here on out, you got this!
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Hey @ji9star ,
Reading that, it sounds like something important to you changed quite suddenly. Not just losing a friend, but losing the one person who made you feel chosen. And after that, the school day itself started to feel different, more distant, more uncomfortable, especially in class and during lunch.
You tried to express that you were hurt. That part matters. But instead of things being worked through, it led to more distance, and even moments where you were told to go away or left out. It makes sense that this would make you feel more alone than before.
I also notice how you are trying to make sense of it “I’m nice, she’s mean,” and yet people still choose her. When something feels unfair, the mind tends to sort things into opposite sides like this. It helps us make sense of the situation, but sometimes it can also make everything feel more extreme than it actually is.
When you think back to that friendship… is there a part of you that still hoped she would understand you or that things could go back to how they were?
About your other friends, it sounds like this didn’t just happen overnight. It has been building up, and recently became clearer… being left out of group chats, conversations, even where to sit. That kind of repeated experience can make anyone start to feel unwanted.
And I want to come back to something you shared .. dance.
Even with everything going on, you still have something you are drawn to. Wanting to learn ballet, trying out for the team… that shows interest, not failure. Not getting in does not mean you are “bad.” It may just mean you have not had enough time or support yet.
A hobby is something you grow into, not something you need to already be good at. It is okay for it to start small. What is it about dance that you like the most?
If classes are not possible right now, you might still keep that interest going in small ways, just so that part of you does not get pushed aside.
For school, instead of trying to fix everything at once, it might help to focus on smaller parts of the day. One class, one interaction, one space where things feel slightly more manageable.
And if being told to move away or feeling excluded continues, it would be worth letting a teacher or school counsellor know. That is not something you are expected to handle alone.
It does feel unfair right now. Maybe for now, we take this one part at a time, and not decide everything about yourself based on what is happening in this one group.
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