Hi @Lauren,
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds incredibly challenging, and I want to acknowledge how difficult it must be to feel this way about something you once loved so much. Your passion for dancing is clear, and it’s understandable why the current situation is causing you so much distress.
Receiving constant criticism without constructive feedback can be very demoralizing, especially when you’re putting in so much effort and seeing your own improvements. It’s important to recognize that you’re doing a great job by continuing to practice and striving to get better. The criticism from your coach and classmates, without any guidance on how to improve, must be incredibly frustrating and disheartening.
The incident where you fell on stage and your coach didn’t show concern is particularly hurtful. It’s natural to feel upset when someone you look up to doesn’t seem to care about your well-being. This lack of empathy from your coach, combined with the feeling of being unfairly targeted, is understandably making you lose confidence.
Here are a few steps that might help you navigate this situation:
- It’s okay to feel hurt and frustrated. These feelings are valid, and recognizing them is the first step towards addressing them.
- Consider having a conversation with your coach. Express how the constant criticism without constructive feedback is affecting you. Ask for specific guidance on how you can improve. Let him know that positive reinforcement and constructive criticism would be more helpful.
- Talk to some of your dance classmates who might understand what you’re going through. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with others who can relate can provide comfort and new perspectives.
- Start by dancing in a safe and supportive environment. Practice in front of friends or family who are encouraging. Gradually build up to larger audiences as your confidence grows.
- If possible, seek feedback from another dance coach or mentor. A fresh perspective might provide the constructive guidance you need and reassure you about your progress.
- It’s important to take care of your mental and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that make you happy and relaxed. Consider speaking with a therapist if you continue to feel overwhelmed by these emotions.
Remember, your love for dancing is a significant part of who you are. Don’t let this situation take away the joy it brings you. You’ve shown incredible strength and resilience by continuing to practice despite the challenges. Keep believing in yourself and your abilities. You’re doing an amazing job, and it’s okay to seek help and support when you need it.
Hear from you soon.