recently my class changed as a new sem started. people always said take control of your life, and thats what i did. i didnt like my allocated class so i decided to switch class which imo was poorly thought out by me. i left the people i know behind in my old class and decided to chart out my path. when i entered my new class, all i felt was empty and numb inside. most of the people here have at least one friend to talk to while im just sitting alone. i know that by changing to a different class i have to make new friends, but my mind and body just rejects to communicate with anyone in my class. maybe their personality doesnt suit me cuz most of them arent that academically strong.idk why im so stressed about this as some ppl in the class also dunno anyone but they are doing just fine. the first time i decided to take control of my life it ended up like this. i dont feel like going to school, i dont feel like doing anything, probably sick rn from stressing about it too much. idk how to fix this issue that ive created.cant even concentrate in class cuz im too stressed thinking about this
Hello @user_1 thank you for sharing this here. It’s really brave of you to take control of your life and make a decision like switching classes. That takes courage, and even though it feels uncomfortable now, it shows that you’re willing to take steps for yourself, and that’s something to acknowledge.
It’s completely understandable that you feel empty or disconnected in your new class. Starting over with new people can be really hard, especially when you don’t know anyone yet. Sometimes our minds and bodies react by shutting down or pulling back because it feels safer that way. That doesn’t mean you made a mistake. It just means your system is trying to adjust to change.
It’s also important to remember that even if others look like they’re doing fine, many people struggle silently too. You’re not the only one feeling this way, even if it seems like it. Feeling unmotivated or not wanting to go to school makes sense when your thoughts are occupied by this stress, it’s draining emotionally and mentally.
When you feel ready, try taking small steps to connect with someone in your new class. It doesn’t have to be a big conversation. Maybe asking a classmate about a topic you didn’t quite catch, or even a small “hi” can be a start. Sometimes one small exchange can open the door to a friendship, even if it takes time.
Be patient and gentle with yourself. It’s okay to take things slowly. You’re adjusting, and that’s already progress.
Thank you for your advice! cuz i mostly observe peoples behaviours and their personality before i decide who to make friends with, after a few days i do find that none of their personalities suits me well,probably thats why i dont feel comfortable making the first step. maybe its also cuz i heavily judge based on first impressions and their actions even if it may not reflect their actual personalities which im trying to change that
Dear @user_1
Thank for reaching out. It took courage to take the risk to change class as you did not like the class initially allocated to you.
I can sense you are self aware and are mindful not to rely on first impressions. When you shared this insight, it suggests to me that you are acknowledging that some of the judgements we make about each other may not be an accurate reflection or even true. Do practise keeping an open mind and start with small actions of reaching out. For example, volunteer for a class committee, class competition or help a classmate. Through small consistent actions, I am confident you would ease into being comfortable in your new class. You are not alone in experiencing this, and you can feel more belonging over time. 
Hello @user_1 that’s honestly really self-aware of you to notice that! It’s totally normal to observe people first before deciding who you vibe with. It just means you value deeper connections instead of forcing small talk.
And yeah, sometimes it does feel like no one really clicks at first. But you’re right. First impressions don’t always show the full picture. People can surprise you once you get to know them a bit better. The fact that you’re trying to be more open about that already shows growth, so give yourself some credit for that.
Maybe for now, you don’t have to rush into making friends. Just take things easy. Say hi, smile, or join in when it feels natural. Sometimes friendships form when we least expect it.
You’re actually handling this way better than you think. It’s okay to take time to adjust. You’ve already taken a big step just by reflecting on all this.