Hi @mimiteeeee,
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Relationships can be so difficult, especially when emotions and past conflicts are at play. It’s clear that you both deeply care for each other and want to make things work despite the challenges. It’s commendable how much effort you’ve put into self-awareness and trying to manage your emotions. Recognizing and acknowledging your own issues is a significant step, and you’ve already made progress by reducing the frequency and intensity of your fights.
It’s also understandable that your boyfriend feels a sense of hopelessness at times. It’s tough when past conflicts linger and affect the present. The fact that he’s slowly regaining confidence shows that there’s still potential for growth and improvement in your relationship. It’s important for both of you to support each other emotionally and to communicate openly about your feelings and concerns. It might be helpful to establish some ground rules for how to handle conflicts when they arise, ensuring that both of you feel heard and understood.
Given the progress you’ve made and the love you have for each other, it seems worth continuing to work on your relationship. Therapy can be incredibly beneficial, but if he’s not ready for that, perhaps starting with self-help resources or individual therapy for each of you might be a step in the right direction. Be patient with yourselves and each other, and remember that it’s okay to seek support from friends, family, or professionals as you navigate this journey together.