Manupulative friend

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My friend has been driving me slowly insane like the last girl and i am cracking i want to forget them but its hard they had been playing with my mind since the day i got here

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Hi user1298

I’m sad to hear the challenges you are going through currently with your friend.

I agree that being in a situation where someone appears to be manipulating or playing with our emotions can be both energy draining and confidence undermining. It inevitably affects our well being, too.

I believe healthy friendships are typically based on respect, openness and give and take between the parties involved.

Here are some suggestions that might help:

  1. Set boundaries: Clearly communicate your limits and needs to your friend. Openly negotiate and agree what is acceptable and what is not. For example, say, " I feel sad when you…"

  2. Distance yourself: Take a step back from the friendship to gain perspective. Relook at what you truly want: Is your friend having your best interests in her heart? Be honest to yourself when you do this self-evaluation.

  3. Seek support: Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist about your feelings and experiences.

  4. Practice self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfillment.

  5. Consider ending the friendship: If the situation is causing more harm than good, it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. The friendship may have run its course.

  6. Mindfulness and self-compassion: Regularly practice mindfulness. There are many complimentary mindfulness exercises available online. Practise self-kindness, understanding, and patience.

  7. Challenge negative thoughts: Reframe negative self-talk and focus on positive affirmations.

  8. Prioritize your well-being: Your mental health and happiness are essential.

Remember, you fully deserve respectful and supportive relationships. :heart:

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