Hi @Anonymous413,
It sounds like you’ve been carrying around a lot of heavy emotions, and I want to acknowledge how hard that must be. I hear you when you say it feels like people aren’t listening or that their silence makes you feel useless—and I can only imagine how isolating that must feel. You’ve been putting yourself out there, trying to connect with others, and when it feels like no one is responding, it’s easy to start thinking that you’re unimportant. But I want you to know, from the start, that you are not unimportant. What you’re feeling matters, and it deserves to be heard.
The way you’ve described your thoughts makes me wonder if you’ve been feeling like you’re unseen or unheard, and that can be an incredibly painful experience. It sounds like, deep down, you’re being someone who feels unimportant, as though your voice and your presence don’t matter as much as they should. But let’s pause here for a moment—because I want to acknowledge that you are reaching out, and that tells me that there’s a part of you that knows you’re worth being heard.
When you talk about your friends seeming to lose interest, it’s easy to internalize that as a reflection of who you are. But I want you to ask yourself: Is that really true? Or is it possible that their silence is more about them, and less about you? Sometimes, people get caught up in their own lives and don’t realize the impact of their actions, but that doesn’t mean you’re any less valuable or worthy of attention.
I know you mentioned that your mind keeps coming up with “proof” that you’re useless or that you’ll never amount to anything, but those thoughts are not a reflection of who you are. They are reflections of how you’re feeling in this moment, and it’s important to make space for those feelings without letting them define your entire self-worth. You’re more than the thoughts that tell you otherwise.
Right now, you’re being someone who feels trapped in their thoughts, and that’s okay. Those thoughts are loud, but that doesn’t mean they’re true. It’s human to feel overwhelmed by our thoughts sometimes, especially when we’re feeling isolated. But remember that just because your mind tells you something doesn’t mean it’s the reality of who you are.
I want to honor your need to feel heard. It’s a fundamental part of being human to want someone to listen when we’re struggling. You’ve been carrying the weight of your emotions on your own, and that’s not something you should have to do alone. There’s no shame in wanting someone to stay with you when you’re feeling miserable in your own skin. That’s not weakness or being “too fragile”—that’s being human. And being human means having needs, including the need for connection and validation.
If it’s been hard to approach people, even your school counselors, that’s okay. Sometimes, when we’re feeling vulnerable, it can feel safer to pull back and protect ourselves from more rejection. But I want to encourage you to think about ways you can start small. You don’t have to open up everything at once. Maybe there’s one person you trust, or even just a way to express yourself through journaling, writing, or other creative outlets.
And in those moments where your thoughts are telling you that you’re unimportant, ask yourself: What is the truth? The truth is that you deserve to be heard, and you deserve to feel valued, even when others don’t respond the way you need. Their silence doesn’t make you unimportant—it just means they might not realize how much you’re going through.
Right now, you’re being someone who feels invisible, but I want to remind you that you’re so much more than that. You’re taking the courageous step of reaching out, and that shows your strength, even when it feels like you’re drowning in self-doubt. Keep taking small steps, and remember, your worth isn’t defined by how others respond to you.
You are important, and your voice deserves to be heard.
Take care, and keep reaching out when you’re ready.
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