Mocked for having a slow brain at work and in social situations. I hate being judged or evaluated in social situations. I have been rejected from young till adulthood, so that feeling still stick with me.
Why do I have to prove my worth in everything in order to be accepted by others? I will not mind to drop dead if there are no consequences. It sucks to live in this realistic society. Its like you must constantly prove that you have value to others in order to survive/live. It sucks that life have given you the bad cards and you are left to deal with it just for your own survival.
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Hi @Mentalhealth60
I am sorry to hear of your experiences with people in social situations and it must be really hurtful to hear that from others. I think it takes a lot of courage to be so open in your sharing and I really want to commend you for that.
Being accepted comes from within yourself. I wonder how you perceive yourself and whether you are being open and accepting towards yourself. You are living your own life and the most important person to prove your worth to, is yourself!
Accepting yourself can be like:
- Being kind to yourself. It can be in words or actions. When you are kind and compassionate to yourself, you will look at yourself differently and see your own worth.
- Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and you cannot be perfect as well. What matters most is that you learn from it and try not to repeat the mistakes again. Blaming yourself will likely lead you down a negative spiral and makes you take a negative view towards yourself and people around you.
- Challenge negative self-talk. Do take time to reflect and identify the thoughts you have about yourself. Are they true and helpful? Were there times when you did things differently? It might be helpful to identify exceptions in situations so you can boost your self-esteem.
- Focus on your strengths. Think about your past achievements or what you are good at. Try doing things that you enjoy as it makes you feel good about yourself. Take time to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small you think they are.
I hope you find this helpful and that you are able to affirm yourself more on your strengths and being proud of who you are. You are worthy and deserving of good things, and I hope you believe in that. All the best!