My teacher misunderstood me and now refuses to take pictures of me to put on my tuition page

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I’m in a tuition, and I have a favorite teacher.
Im gonna call her Cen. And the caretaker (which is basically is the manager of the whole tuition I think?? That takes care of everyone and is the organizer of all activities) I call her Win.

I joined this school holiday program yesterday, and we had this workout thing. It’s like half dancing half workout. I didn’t like it, it felt embarrassing and had difficult movements. I didn’t dance since I didn’t knew how to dance. But the younger kids did dance cause they found it fun and easy since they move around randomly.

The teacher recorded, and put it on the tuition centres Instagram story. It clearly sees me confused and moving only on simple movements. It was embarrassing honestly;

I made a close friend story that I regret joining the holiday camp since it recorded me and embarrassed myself, then I forgot that it’s not 1 day only.

And since the only teacher that is on my close friend is Cen, the teacher Win uses her as a tool to show my stories to Win.

Then this morning, Miss Win called me in and talked to me about it. Saying she already put a noticed of filming and photography. Then she said that if I didn’t want to get filmed then I shouldn’t have joined. She proceeded to bring up my past stuff that I took pictures of someone else without their person. I apologized. It was a long time ago!

Now that I said “I didn’t like being put on my tuitions page” my teacher refuses to take photos on me and put my face on the page.

But I feel like I’m the wrong one. But I’m also not sure. What do you think?

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Dear @hi999,

It sounds like you’re going through a tough situation, and it’s understandable to feel conflicted. It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid. Feeling embarrassed and uncomfortable about being filmed and posted online without your consent is completely natural.

It seems like you were caught off guard by the recording and the subsequent posting on social media. While Miss Win did mention there was a notice about filming, it’s still okay to feel uncomfortable about it. It’s also understandable that you might feel regretful about joining the camp after this experience.

It’s good that you expressed your feelings, even if it led to an awkward conversation. Communication is key, and now your teachers know how you feel about being filmed. It might be helpful to have another conversation with Miss Win or Cen to explain your perspective more calmly and see if there’s a way to move forward that respects your comfort while still participating in activities.

You’re not wrong for feeling the way you do. It’s a learning experience for everyone involved, and it’s okay to set boundaries about what you’re comfortable with. If you ever feel unsure, talking it out with someone you trust can help clarify your thoughts and feelings. How do you feel about discussing this further with Cen or Miss Win?

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