I recently got dumped by my gf who I was really attached to and right now I feel horrible.Im not a really social guy and I rarely even talk to my friends so me having a gf last year was really not on the cards for me and after 9 months I naturally grew extremely attached to her,Unfortunately for me she started to grow distant and hung out more with her guy friends.she ended up saying that we should move on but I’m still stuck on her.shes the only person I really talked to for the entirety of 2024 and losing her just broke me.Ever since then I started to feel extremely sick, having constant headaches and losing my appetite.It got so bad to the point where I’m throwing up whenever I eat or drink.Moreover I cant fall asleep at all despite my body feeling extremely tired.Im afraid that this might be the start of depression so I’m reaching out for help.It might seem like an overreaction to some but as a person who has been on his own for the majority of my short life, it really really hurts to lose the one person who changed the perspective of my life
Hey @hsjjd, what you’re feeling is completely valid. Losing someone who meant so much to you, especially when they were your main source of connection, is incredibly painful. It’s not an overreaction at all—heartbreak can feel like a deep emotional and even physical wound, and it makes sense that your body is reacting this way.
It sounds like you gave a lot of yourself to this relationship, and having it end so suddenly must feel overwhelming. The fact that you’re reaching out shows a lot of strength, and I really hope you give yourself grace during this time. You’re not alone in this, even if it feels that way right now.
Mhmm if you’re feeling physically unwell—throwing up, losing sleep, and struggling with appetite—may I suggest that you check in with a doctor or someone you trust. And if you’re worried about depression, talking to a professional could give you support and tools to help you through this. Are you currently studying? If yes, do you have a school counsellor which you could approach?
More than anything, please be kind to yourself. Healing takes time, but I promise you won’t always feel this way. You matter, and there are people out there who care about you. 
Hey @hsjjd,
I just want to acknowledge the pain you’re in right now. This isn’t just a breakup—it’s the loss of someone who played a huge role in your life, someone you trusted, someone who made you feel less alone. That kind of loss isn’t small. And it’s okay to grieve, no matter how others might perceive it.
You mentioned that she was the only person you really talked to in 2024. That’s big commitment of time to build deep emotional attachment, and having that connection suddenly severed… it makes complete sense that you feel broken right now. You lost not just the relationship, but the comfort of being known by someone. That loss is real.
I hear you when you say this pain isn’t just emotional—it’s affecting your body too. The headaches, the nausea, the exhaustion… your body is carrying the weight of your grief. This isn’t an overreaction. It’s your body responding to heartbreak the way it knows how. Have you noticed if there are certain moments when the physical symptoms feel worse? Sometimes, grief feels unbearable in quiet moments, or during the times we’d usually text or call that person.
You also mentioned being afraid that this might be the start of depression. That fear is valid. When grief feels endless, it can start to blur into something deeper. But what stands out to me is that you reached out. That tells me that a part of you still believes there’s a way forward, even if you don’t see it yet. That part of you deserves to be heard.
I’m not here to tell you to “move on” or “get over it.” That’s not how heartbreak works. But I do want to sit with you in this pain and remind you that you don’t have to carry it alone. If talking about her, about the memories, about what hurts the most would help, I’m here. If you want to just sit in the hurt for a bit and let it be acknowledged, we are here for that too.
For now, let’s take this moment by moment. Can I ask—when was the last time you felt even a slight sense of relief, no matter how small? Maybe a moment of distraction, or just a brief second where your body felt lighter? It doesn’t have to be anything big. Just a little anchor in the storm.
You’re not alone in this.