School is genuinely frying my brain omd

I gen can’t keep up with school, hobbies, friends, mental health, grades, CCA, homework, reputation , tuition/extra lessons all at once like I gotta sacrifice so many to keep a few up

God bro how do I tell my parents that I want to focus on my work through my own revision not just non stop tuitions on weekdays (I can barely finish my work) cus everytime I reach home after tuition on Wednesdays and Fridays is like 7pm ish and lwk I’m a huge procrastinator so I end up finishing everything at like 11pm or smt
And also..
How do I even stop procrastinating when I’m like burnt out and genuinely tired anyway, like omd every time I reach home I just wanna sleep already, and when I’m outside I’m just on autopilot atp
How do I heal with this .. I get burnt out every month I’m not even exaggerating

Dear @crystalsss

Thank you for writing in. I can see that you have put in a lot of thought into what you need to regain control of your life and thrive.

From your sharing I gather the current tuition arrangement has not been helpful as it leaves you too tired to spend time by yourself to revise. I sense you have analysed the situation and believe you can make more progress if allowed to self study.

May I recommend you explain to your parents that you would like to try out self study as you believe it would be more effective than going for tuition. Develop a self -study plan and stick to it as this may help convince your parents.

About procrastination, please do not be too discouraged, you can overcome it. I can see you are motivated to address the procrastination habit. Please know what you are encountering is fairly common among many others, including students and adults. There is indeed a lot of distractions around us, so taking small steps to effectively reduce time on these distractions will help.

Do check out these sites for guidance:

https://www.mindline.sg/youth/article/10-ways-to-get-stuff-done?type=interest

I have summarised the approach for your easy reference:

-Break down the task to smaller sub tasks

-Use the pomodoro method (25 min focus, 5 min rest and then repeat)

-Put the phone in another room

-Switch up your environment

-Keep the outcome in mind

I encourage you to take the first step soon. Though it will feel difficult at first, keep going and you will gain momentum to continue. Be kind to yourself, if you find your attention shifting gently acknowledge and accept it takes time and it’s ok. The next step would be to remind yourself on your outcome and resume the task.

With better time management and less procrastination, do aim to prioritise sleep and daily rest. I believe sleep is key to our overall wellbeing and can reduce burnout, increase energy and promote learning. :yellow_heart: