so basically, since young i have a feeling that I have been controlled by my parents each at each step of my life, they would always nag me a certain things, they sometimes constantly shout at me and sometimes lay hands i would not want to go into details here as im not really comfortable with that. so they would basically not allow to go to my friends place, do certain activities avoid me from making certain friends. they would always pressure me to get good grades and if i didn’t get good grades they would do certain things, call me names like you are a mistake, no parents should have a child like me, they would compare my results to my friends and say that why cant i be like them. when i tell that I’m stressed of uncomfortable with certain things they would disregard it and say what kind of stress would you have. Due to my childhood, i am currently very introverted i rarely talk to anyone, im unable to make friends, but i do make friends sometimes but they tend to forget me because i rarely hang out with them. i get anxious when im outside surrounded by a lot of people, i tend to shiver, my hands shake uncontrollably and sometimes my breath quickens. i also find many things boring especially the things i loved doing. i can’t focus on my classwork . Last year during o lvls we shifted houses it was quite close to the dates of the exams and during that time period two my grandpa died around feburary. and there was another family death very close to my exams or it was during that period. that year i also decided to be crazy and get a bf, he was very sweet and all but my parents dont approve of me dating anyone till i completed my studies, they found out about it like a few days before my exams and scolded me a lot, they also gave me the cold shoulder and avoided talkong to me. all these events put me in a place i didnt want to be in, i was very sad because of the deaths, then my parents avoided me. it put me into immense pressure and i didn’t do quite well in my English and chem. i still passed but they said its not good enough and that led me to think i was a disgrace then i slowly swept away into the sea of darkness i couldn’t think straight, i felt emotionless for quite a bit and still am. I stopped caring much about my body i tend to eat less and sometimes even skip meals. I have trouble sleeping from all the events last year…and…i have multiple thoughts about…um…self harming and i might have attempted it once…but my parents didnt know about any of this…and they call me having anxiety a joke and they think my Un comforts and my stress is invalid. So i dont bother telling them any more., so yeah thats it…should i seek help?
Dear @Kavya_rai,
Thank you for trusting us with your story. It takes courage to open up about such painful experiences. You’ve faced numerous challenges, from feeling controlled by your parents to grappling with anxiety and other emotional difficulties. It must have been incredibly tough dealing with the loss of family members and the stress of a national exam all at once. Please know that your feelings are valid, and you deserve support and understanding. You matter! 
Considering what you’ve shared, seeking help from a professional could greatly benefit you. A counsellor can offer a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your emotions, learn coping strategies, and work through past trauma. They can also help you strengthen your resilience and develop healthy ways to manage stress and anxiety. I recommend reaching out to your school counsellor for immediate support. They can guide you on the next steps towards feeling better sooner.
Remember, you’re not alone, and it’s perfectly okay to ask for help. Your well-being matters, and seeking support is a positive and empowering decision. Listed below are a few resources you might find helpful.
Take care and best wishes!
Kind regards,
Cool Breeze =)
Here are some additional resources for you to consider:
Rescue Session: Rescue Sessions | mindline.sg
Learning Paths: Learning Paths | mindline.sg
Feel More Control: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Gain Perspectives: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Relational Peace: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Be Kind To Yourself: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Understand Yourself: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Balance Yourself: Mental Support & Wellbeing Resources in Singapore to Improve Your Mental Health | mindline.sg
Here are other community options you can consider:
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Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) - 1800-283 7019
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IMH CHAT: (webCHAT - CHAT)
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SOS - 1767
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Care Corner Counselling Centre - 1800-353 5800
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The Safe Space Foundation (Non-profit) : https://tinyurl.com/ssmoht (Get pro bono counselling by booking the voucher codes on the Safe Space ISO 27001 platform)