Hi @stardusz
Words escaped me when I read what you shared. I am very sad to hear what you are going through and want to acknowledge how brave you are. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed and saddened as you navigate this challenging time.
I believe the focus has shifted to palliative care, which aims to relieve symptoms and improve quality of life. Palliative care is crucial in managing advanced cancer. It encompasses various supportive treatments designed to alleviate symptoms such as pain, nausea, and fatigue.
As a caregiver, it’s 100% understandable to experience a range of emotions, including sadness, guilt, and anxiety about the future. Many caregivers report feeling helpless when they see their loved ones decline and may struggle with thoughts of loss. It’s important to recognize these feelings as part of the process and seek support for yourself as well.
May I suggest these coping strategies:
Seek Support: Consider reaching out to support groups for caregivers or individuals dealing with cancer. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be helpful. @VOXJY has shared some resources which you may want to consider.
Communicate: Talk openly with your spouse about his feelings and wishes. This can foster a sense of connection and understanding during this difficult time.
Self-Care: Make sure to take care of your own physical and emotional health. This might include taking breaks when needed, engaging in activities that bring you joy, or seeking professional counselling on what you are experiencing, plus how to manage emotions and thoughts in healthier ways.
Mindfulness and Relaxation: Techniques such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or gentle yoga can help manage stress and anxiety.
Focus on Quality Time: Spend meaningful moments together doing things you both enjoy or simply being present with each other.
It’s understandable that you may feel concerned about your spouse’s current treatment plan, especially if he is experiencing side effects from Chinese medicine or is not adhering to the prescribed regimen due to discomfort. Open dialogue with healthcare providers about alternative therapies or adjustments in treatment can help ensure he receives the best possible care tailored to his needs.
Facing a terminal illness in a loved one is profoundly challenging, both emotionally and physically. Allow yourself to grieve and feel what you’re feeling; it’s a natural response to such a significant life change. Remember that seeking help for yourself is just as important as caring for your spouse during this time. You are not alone in this journey; support is available for both of you. Please take care. 