Today, after years later, I realised my high school friends back then are mean people. I did not stand up for myself and let them take advantage of me because i want to keep the peace.
Now, im still friends with one of them but eversince she got lupus, she’s taking advantage of me, disrespect me, gaslight me saying it was out of nowhere for expressing how i feel 3 years ago, calculative, and rude.
Now im just upset about all this and i dont know how to move on from this. Im travelling with her and one other friend soon.
(Im gonna admit i was naive as well when i was in high school)
Dear @user836855
Thank you for reaching out for support. Reading what you wrote, I can relate to your experience of being with friends who may not have had your best interests at heart.
Please do not be too hard on yourself. At that point I sincerely believe you did not know better. I honestly think that the most important thing is that you are now more aware. That is wisdom and something you can be proud about.
When I read that your one of the friends from that group has been treating you with disrespect and gaslighting you, I sense how hurt you are feeling.
It would be good to take a step back and reflect if the friendship is helping you grow and is mutually respectful. If possible, do talk it over with a trusted family member or school counsellor on what to do next. If you require immediate support, I recommend calling the national mindline at 1771 and speaking to one of their counsellors there. The hotline is managed by caring and knowledgeable counsellors and is available 24/7.
I believe we all deserve friendships that are mutually respectful and helps us thrive. Please seek help and support soon. 