Do you sometimes get the feeling where the relationship with someone just doesn’t feel the same anymore.
Maybe something happened that you both thought you’ve forgive/solved the issue, but deep down you know once broken, fixed but not the same.
You sometimes miss how you both used to be but force yourself to look forward and accept how things are now.
You sometimes wish you could just walk away but you just can’t. Maybe it’s the responsibilities, the commitments, or maybe you just don’t want to let go.
Dear @Whispering
Thank you for reaching out. When you asked if feeling like the relationship has changed from what it was initially is normal, I believe it is, because I have seen many relationships evolve over time.
I therefore think it is completely understandable that a relationship no longer feels the way it once did. When two people go through something difficult, even if both say they’ve forgiven and moved forward, the experience likely reshapes the connection, resulting in a change in the relationship’s form.
Please know that change does not necessarily mean loss. Sometimes it’s just a signal that the relationship has entered a deeper, more realistic stage. Early closeness is usually achieved without much effort or adjustments. However as time goes on, differences become clearer, expectations shift, and the way each partner fits with the other evolves. That can feel unsettling but can also be a sign that the relationship is maturing.
May I recommend to keep communication lines between each other open to maximise opportunities for deeper understanding between partners. Working with a couples counsellor could also help to learn effective strategies to enhance the quality of relationships. For example, the couple can learn about fighting fair, setting clear boundaries where needed and conveying opinions openly in a respectful and fair manner. Hence these can potentially help the relationship get stronger. Remember that you are not alone in this, so keep reaching out whenever needed. 
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hello, thank you for sharing! Perhaps both of them are in another stage of life, and it is part of growing as a person! While we definitely have a sense of nostalgia and longing for the past, but knowing how to move forward is important as well 
perhaps catch ups through text or offline cafes can help to maintain the friendship/relationship. 