Too much on my plate

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I recently felt like there too much pressure on my shoulder, with failed relationship to career struggle, im finding ways to cope with the pressure and jealousy from my circle of friends. I tried fitness but it led me to injuries, tried out with nature but the thought will come to me, tried to find new hobbies but the pressure seems to be there.

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Hey I get that feeling sometimes too like it feels at times like things are going no where for me like the pressure to do well and keeping up with friends can sometimes be overwhelming :smiling_face_with_tear:

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Dear @Mamatlahh

Dealing with so much at once can feel really tough. :people_hugging:
From relationship challenges to career struggles, and even feeling pressure and jealousy from friends, it’s a lot to handle. Well done on trying different coping strategies like fitness and nature :clap:t4: :clap:t4:. Even though they haven’t provided the relief you hoped for, it’s still okay to feel like nothing is quite working out at the moment.

Sometimes, when we’re juggling many things, it can feel like we’re carrying too much weight on our shoulders. Our nervous system can get stuck in an ‘on mode’, known as the sympathetic mode, where we feel constantly alert and overwhelmed. This can lead to feelings of stress and exhaustion. It’s important to balance this with the ‘off mode’, or parasympathetic mode, which helps us relax and recover.

Here are three self-regulation techniques that might help:

  1. Deep Breathing: Take slow, deep breaths to calm your mind and body, activating the parasympathetic nervous system and promoting relaxation.

  2. Mindfulness: Focus on the present moment without judging yourself or your feelings. This practice helps shift from the busy ‘on mode’ to a calmer ‘off mode’.

  3. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help organise them and provide clarity. Here are three journal prompts you can try:

    • What are three things that are causing me the most stress right now, and why?
    • How can I prioritise my tasks and responsibilities to better manage my time?
    • What are three positive things that happened today, and how did they make me feel?

It might also be helpful to prioritise what’s most important to you right now and consider talking to someone you trust about what you’re going through. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or a counsellor, sharing your feelings can often lighten the load. Remember, it’s okay to take things one step at a time and give yourself space to breathe. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and seeking support can make a big difference.

I hope the above has been helpful and if you’d like more resources or if there is anything else you’d like to share with us, please do. We’re here to listen to you, your feelings are valid and you matter! :grinning:

Take care,
Cool Breeze =)