So im just writing this as i personally want to be known by a particular name and well as yall guess this post, pronoun as well but the issue is im not sure who to tell it too as i know for a fact i cant share it to my family as all of them even one of them that i trust alot is very against the very thing i am due to it being well against religion and is considered a transgression against god so i …dont really know who to trust to say about it
And i want to be able to be free and express myself but i cant…i have to be a certain way, i have to keep up a particular “personality” that i have. Its annoying, painful and frustrating to keep it up
it must be really suffocating when you feel like you have to hide your true self, especially from your loved ones. figuring out your identity can also be confusing and scary at times
in a way, i can relate to your experience… i haven’t come out to my family in fear that they would treat me differently afterwards. while everyone’s experience would differ, i hope you know that you are not alone in this
also, navigating identity and religion can be really tricky, but know that it is not a crime to be yourself and to want to express yourself freely
thank you for sharing this here, it must have taken you a lot of courage. know that you will always have a safe space here to share about how your experiences and how you feel, and perhaps this could serve as a platform for you to connect with others who are going through something similar take care!
That sounds like a really tough and isolating position to be in, and I just want to say that your feelings are completely valid. It’s exhausting to constantly maintain a version of yourself that doesn’t truly reflect who you are, especially when it feels like you have no safe space to express yourself. It’s understandable that you want to be seen and known for who you are, and the fact that you’re acknowledging that desire—even when it feels out of reach—is powerful in itself.
Finding people you can trust with something so personal and sensitive takes time, but you don’t have to figure it all out at once. Sometimes, support comes from unexpected places, whether that’s friends, online communities (such as Let’s Talk), or even just moments where you can be yourself privately. Even if you can’t openly express yourself in every situation, you’re still you, no matter what. Your identity isn’t erased just because it isn’t fully visible to everyone around you yet.
I really hope you find spaces where you can feel comfortable being yourself, even if it’s just little pockets of freedom for now.
You deserve to exist as you without carrying all this weight alone. No matter how others might see it, your identity is real, and your experience matters. You don’t have to maintain a certain persona in order to impress others; and it’s okay to just be yourself.
You’re not alone in this, and Let’s Talk is always open to hear your concerns.
It must be tough navigating these conflicting feelings .
Its not easy when your identity clashes with societal/familial expectations.
What you’re feeling is extremely valid and real. In this context, its not something that everyone can understand fully.
Like a quote from the show “Mr Kims convenience store”, when Mr Kim asked a person in drag why they present themselves in a certain manner.
“It just feels like home”
I feel that that line is quite poignant.
Similarly, your family may not be able to understand, society may not be able to understand. But it’s what makes you feel like YOU and that’s the most important thing.
It may not be acknowledged by others but it doesn’t discredit your identity, you matter. I’m proud of you and i know it is not easy, facing such conflicting feelings.
I hope with courage and time, things start to make more sense, and even if it doesn’t, it will be okay.
take care!